In the personal development field, people are alluded to believing that you must be positive 100% of the time. However, this is not realistic. And sometimes, negativity is needed in order to figure out what the truth is.
When you are too optimistic, you could become manic and trust people too easily. Or, you may overexert yourself. With negativity, you learn how to be more wary of people and circumstances.
It is best to find that balance between negativity and positivity. There are ways to not sink deep into negativity though, and that is by perpetual inner growth. In the path of growth, the negativity manifests as obstacles. You can use positivity as a way to guide you through these obstacles, and negativity to dissuade yourself from pursuing paths that are not aligned with the truth.
Positivity and negativity are determined my our thoughts, our feelings, and our emotions. They are based around our experiences. When you experience positivity, you are in alignment with truth and love. With negativity, you are off course, and you must find your way back to being balanced.
Recently, I set a goal of exercising five times a week. Even though I could go to the gym every weekday, I realized that this was too high of a goal. My body is not used to working out that much. So, I’m using negativity as a guide. Rather than being overly optimistic and marathoning on the treadmill or elliptical with no breaks, I have decided to start going to Zumba classes for more lighthearted exercise. The gym that I go to has Zumba classes four days a week, so I’ll restart with that.
When you start off a business, you might be overly optimistic about the results you get (i.e. how much money you made, the quality of service/good, etc.). You have to perceive your experience through the lens of negativity too. It helps keep your grounded and balanced.
Negativity also comes in handy for relationships. When you find yourself hanging around people who do not have the same values as you do, it may be time to cut off friendships or to slowly wean them off. This can help you make time for people you would prefer to hang around.
I found myself gradually separating myself from friends and family as a way to discover my true self. Sometimes, friends and family can be contributing to the negativity that you are spiraling downward from. So, you may want to do spend time alone if you feel yourself sinking down into negativity. Explore yourself and figure out what it is that is bothering you. Learn how to embrace the negativity and to allow it to guide you. So long as you don’t allow negativity to consume, you are good.
As I have suggested before, you might want to start by journalling your thoughts. Alternatively, you can seek therapy or coaching from others to find out what is wrong.