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The Difference Between Successful People and Mediocre People

The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will.” – Vince Lombardi


I find this quote to be true. There are different ways in which success shows up in a person’s life. It could be owning a nice home, raising two beautiful loving children, or progressing in one’s career. But either way, a lack of will can get in the way and crush a person’s success by derailing their efforts.

How does one build up willpower to crush and conquer life? For one, you may have to change your environment. Most people’s environments do not set them up for success and in fact can hinder their progress. For example, if you live with people who settle for comfort and who dissuade you from focusing on what success means to you, then you will have negative thoughts come into your mind that will inevitably hinder your growth. The same happens when you live in a chaotic environment (clutter or living in poverty-stricken areas). So the first step in building up more willpower is to first examine your environment and see if there is anything you can do to change it and foster a growth-oriented mindset.

You may also benefit from associating with people who achieved the level of success that you so wish to attain. You could join local Meetups. Or, you can start one of your own. Surrounding yourself with the people who live in the successful type of mindset increases your ability to foster a success-driven mindset as well. They say you are the average of the people you spend your time with in proportion to how long you spend your time with each person.

These days, I’ve been feeling a lack of will myself. Some ways in which I have been trying to increase my will is to, for example, take Zumba group classes. When I see how hard the instructor is working and how other people are doing in the class, it makes me want to increase my efforts and try my best as well. It’s a good way for me to improve my physical wellness when alone, I would probably just watch YouTube dance videos without getting up and trying it for myself.

I find that a lack of knowledge is not necessarily a barrier for success. The most successful people in history in terms of monetary wealth are not the smartest or brightest people, but those who have been able to utilize other people’s intelligence or knowledge to create products or services of great value to society. They’ve learned that they don’t have to know it all to make it. The entrepreneurial mindset is that even if you don’t know how to do it, someone will, and so you can outsource those abilities to help you succeed in whatever it is you wish to do.

I don’t consider myself a good singer because my technique is off and I haven’t had proper vocal training. So what do I do when singing songs? I use technology (such as  the effects on GarageBand) to improve it. It takes my mediocre voice to the next level. So rather than giving up and saying that I’m not talented enough, I find a way to make it work and make my songs or covers sound nice.

Lack of strength does not matter either when it comes to success. There have been people who are blind or deaf (e.g. Helen Keller) or crippled who have turned their lives into success stories. “I’m not strong enough” just becomes a feeble excuse. And if you believe that you can’t, you won’t. Just as much as if you believe you can, you will. It is all a matter of perception. After all, you are what you feed your mind.

So there you have it, a wise quote on the difference between a successful person and others. It is all in how you develop your mindset. If you find that you have many negative thoughts hindering your success, it may be time for you to re-examine your thoughts and remove those limiting beliefs that are standing in your way.

Overcoming Mistakes and Failures

We tend to see life as linear, even though life does not exactly work that way. Sometimes, we are served a curved ball, and we are unsure about how to navigate that new curve. It tends to get even more confusing as several curves hit us at once through several points.

Failure is inevitable as we navigate life and try to resolve those patterns and new forces or directions. However as much as we’d love to avoid those failures, we can learn how to use it to our advantage. Learn from your mistakes and failures quickly, and you will land on the road to recovery. You will surely succeed if you keep going for whatever it is that you envision.

Many people give up too early, settling for mediocrity. That could mean settling for a job than pays less than your skills’ worth, settling for plain and flavorless relationships, or slacking off with your health (e.g. not being physically active or overeating). If you give up like this, you will lead somewhat of an unfulfilling life, not getting a chance to explore a more thrilling or exciting part of life; something that could truly lead you to the path of not only success, but happiness.

As Chris Bradford once said, “There is no failure except in no longer trying.” If you are patient and persistent, eventually, you are bound to succeed. You can always change direction as needed and learn quickly, adapting to each curve aimed at your way.

Some people think that people who acquire riches or who have optimal health are just lucky. Rather than learning from them, they harbor resentment or envy. It’s best to use those people as sources of inspiration rather than succumbing to negativity and more self-hatred. Whatever you project onto other people speaks volumes about yourself. So why not just try to find these role models or people who you look up to and use them as motivation?

If it is difficult to face your failures or mistakes, perhaps you should reach out to others for help. Or, give yourself a break from the failure until you’re ready to face it head-on. Otherwise, you can try to break down the failure into multiple steps and figure you’re way around it. Within every failure, there is bound to be some sort of opportunity waiting to be unraveled.

Personally for myself, I look up to people like Steve Jobs and Will Smith. I admire them for chasing after their dreams and working hard to get to a high level of achievement during their careers. I know that they had to fail multiple times before reaching the level of success that they’ve both attained. Not everyone is quite ready for that path, but you can take steps to gradually shift into those higher levels of success. First, overcome the small failures, and then tackle the bigger levels of failures or mistakes. Take it a step at a time, and you are bound to succeed.