Category: Self-Care

Persistence

We hear it time after time that persistence pays off. But what exactly does persistence mean and look like? Persistence is when you continually work on something time after time, despite any setbacks that may occur.

One example of how I have been persistent lately is by hitting the gym every day on weekdays. That has been paying off well for me as I feel my body’s stamina increasing. My energy has also slowly but surely been stabilizing throughout the day.

Another way in which I have been persistent is to blog almost daily. There are some days that I miss when my schedule is busy, but for the most part I have been consistent in blogging daily. By being persistent, I’ve noticed that the quality of my writing has been improving too.

Some people may feel as if they haven’t been persistent daily. But if you look at the habits you already have, you may be persistent. For example, you may brush your teeth daily, or showering every other day. You may wake up at the same time every day. That counts as being persistent.

My recommendation is that if you want to live a life that is more structured, start off with one small habit that you can instill every day. Maybe if hitting the gym seems out of your reach, start with 3 full pushups. Then add another pushup the next day, making it four. Then go with five, six, seven, and so on until before you know it, you’ll be flying with those pushups every day with a strong physique to show for.

Other good habits to instill that might be easy to start off with is drinking more water. You can make it a goal to get 2 cups of water in before lunch. Or if you wake up late, make it a goal to down a bottle of water the first thing when you wake up.

If it is a matter of productivity, you can gradually build up persistence to working or studying more. For example, you may make it a simple goal to study and review notes for 5 minutes a day first thing in the morning or when you get back home in the evening. Five minutes does not sound like a lot of time, sure. But is it better than continuously not studying or working? Yes! Start with just five minutes, and then build yourself up to 7 minutes after a week of studying or working 5 minutes a day. Then, you might want to build up to 10 minutes a day. Keep going until you hit the ideal amount of time for studying or working.

The key the persistence is to start simple and relatively easy. Then, you will be able to be persistent, gradually building up long-lasting habits. Any time you slide down, restart with something simple again until you get the hang of sticking to that habit. Then you too can become a persistent person. (;

How to Start Your Day

A good way to start your day is to instill habits that form a morning routine. That way, you can start the day fresh and awake. There are many habits that you can include in your daily routine (in no particular order):

– Listen to uplifting music
– Follow a guided meditation
– Do some light stretching
– Practice some yoga
– Shower
– Brush your teeth
– Change into daytime clothes
– Wear makeup
– Wear jewelry or other accessories
– Check off your MITs (most important tasks)
– Come up with a gratitude list
– Drink water
– Enjoy sipping hot tea or hot cocoa
– Read a book
– Wash your face
– Apply toner or moisturizer to your face
– Apply lotion or oil on your body
– Massage your hands or anywhere you feel discomfort
– Go for a morning walk
– Enjoy the sunlight (being careful not to look at it directly if it is beaming bright)
– Enjoy breakfast
– Wash the dishes
– Apply perfume, cologne, or body mist
– Comb your hair
– Brush your hair

These are just a few ideas out of many to start your morning routine. For everyone, it may look different. For example, some people (including myself) prefer taking showers in the evening. Other people do not drink anything with caffeine in it.

If you’re not used to having a morning routine, you may want to start with just a few habits at a time. Then, you can gradually build up to instilling more good habits. Eventually, you’ll be on a roll, tackling each habit one at a time and starting your day just right.

If you have a chaotic schedule, you may want to just make sure that you instill a few good habits. Then, let the rest resolve itself based on what you have to get accomplished for that day. For example, if you have to head off somewhere different from usual at an early time, you might cut off going for a morning walk. Or, you can alternatively wake up a little earlier than usual to get your whole morning routine in.

Personally, I try to get my whole morning routine down. If I don’t, I succumb to being lazy and doing nothing. On days when I follow my morning routine, I feel more productive and in balance.

Nighttime routines are also helpful for ending your day. It can put you into a relaxing mood to get some much needed rest. Again, you can apply some of the habits I’ve listed above to get yourself started with a good nighttime routine (e.g. listening to a guided meditation to help your mind relax).

Like I said, if you’re completely out of it with no set schedule for your morning routine, you might want to start with simple habits such as brushing your teeth or drinking water. You can make it a goal for a week to brush your teeth every day for seven days. Then once you get past that, you can add in the habit of drinking water for seven days along with brushing your teeth. Then after that, you can throw something in such as listening to a guided meditation. Go with what feels best or natural to you.

What Are Some Maladaptive Coping Skills?

A coping skill is a way in which we manage or deal with stress. There are two ways in which we can deal with stress. The first is called adaptive or positive coping skills, ways in which we can deal with stress in an uplifting or beneficial manner. The second is called maladaptive or negative coping skills, ways in which we engage in behaviors that are not beneficial or helpful in the long run.

There are many ways in which maladaptive behaviors can present themselves, in some cases existing as unconscious behaviors that we engage in. Here is a list of just some of those maladaptive behaviors and why you should not engage in these kinds of behaviors.

Excess use of alcohol

It is okay to drink once in a while when you are of age. However, people sometimes have a tendency of drinking more than they should. Overuse of alcohol can be damaging to your health, both physically and mentally. It is a depressant, meaning that it can reduce the activity in your brain and cause you to engage in behaviors that are risky or detrimental to your overall health. Additionally, over drinking can lead to blackouts, completely wiping your memory of the night before.

If you are taking prescribed medication or supplements, alcohol can lead to those medications or supplements being less effective. It may cause you to incorrectly believe that the medication or vitamin pills are not working when in fact they are just being negatively affected by the consumption of alcohol.

You may feel happy in the moment drinking. But after the buzz is gone, you may experience a negative void once more. If you drink to avoid your problems, you will find that your problems are just getting worse by not addressing them head on.

Smoking

Inhaling carcinogens is detrimental to your health in the long run. It can be relaxing to breath in and out these substances. However, it is advisable to learn how to just focus on your breathing without the cigarettes. Breathing can be a more meditative, relaxed, and fresh way of dealing with stress.

Smoking is not only bad for your lungs, but bad for the environment. How many times do you walk out into the neighborhood and see cigarettes lining up the street? Plus also, smoking can be damaging to your relationships. Some people suffer from asthma and can also be triggered by the smell of smoke that is caught up in your clothes or body. The odor is less than pleasant.

Oversleeping

Some people have the tendency of sleeping or napping throughout the day as a way to deal with stress. Although sleep is good, too much sleep can lead to low energy throughout your days. It can also prevent you from tackling problems head on. Sleep can be a way of avoiding reality. Eventually, you’ll have to wake up and face life. So why not avoid sleeping during the day and reclaim some of your time back? (If you’re a biphasic or polyphasic sleeper, then this might not apply to you.)

Watching too much TV, YouTube, or the news

Watching TV shows all day can have a negative effect, especially if you spend your time absorbing negative content from the news. When all you do is consume, consume, consume, you leave little time to pursue hobbies or activities that engage your unique skills and talents. Or in the case of watching the news, you allow all the negative stories to cloud your vision and scare you from going out there and exploring the world. We have to remember that life is not the same as it appears on TV.

The same goes for watching too many YouTube videos or Netflix all day. You drain your creative powers and end up spending most of your time consuming too much content and doing nothing with it. This doesn’t apply to you if you utilize what you’ve learned from TV or YouTube (e.g. trying a new recipe from Peaceful Cuisine). But overall, consuming too many videos can lead to you being inactive all day, especially if you don’t take breaks in between watching videos.

Overeating or undereating

People may either under or overeat when they experience stress. However, it is important to stay on top of your meals and to make you that you are getting adequate nutrition. If you are fasting (e.g. for religious reasons), you want to be careful not to overexert yourself. You want to make sure you have a balanced diet that serves your body in the long run. And of course, you should consume more healthy foods rather than giving in to processed junk foods.

Overeating can be a hard habit to kick since our brains are hardwired to ensure that we are getting enough nutrients. When we stress, we send signals to the brain that may cause us to eat more through survival instincts. Nowadays, the stress that we deal with is much different. But in the past, stress was a way for the body to gather much needed nutrients. A similar event occurs when you under eat. Your brain is signaling as a sign of stress that you have to eat less and run on your own body’s fuel.

What you’ll want to do is to first deal with the stress head-on. See where it is coming from and try to resolve it first. Then once you’ve addressed that issue, you can focus on your eating. Maybe take smaller bites or chew more times per bite. Smell the aroma of your food and indulge in it slowly. This can help with both under and overeating.

Playing too many video games

Playing video games can be fun, especially if you’re playing games with friends. However, you want to make sure not to overdo it. Otherwise, at least try to make some money off of it like PewDiePie did through streaming or YouTube videos.

You want to make sure that if you enjoy video gaming, that you take the necessary breaks from it throughout the day. And, you want to make sure that it doesn’t consume your life. Well, that is unless you’re a pro gamer. In that case, consider changing video gaming into a work lifestyle.

Watching pornography

Watching pornography, especially in large amounts, can lead to one becoming disillusioned with reality. What is shown in porn is often times just a fantasy for how real life sex actually works. Meanwhile, it disconnects you from people and causes you to create imagined scenarios in your head of how other people are relating to you.

Rather than watching porn, it is advisable to engage in real relationships. Form friendships and close bonds with people. Try your best to form genuine relations and connections with people rather than closing off your mind to an imagined fantasy.

Shopping too much or shoplifting

Although shopping can be therapeutic, too much shopping can be a hindrance to your financial goals. It’s possible for one to shop their problems away. The problem is that if you treat all your problems through shopping, you may overindulge and get too caught up in material things.

And of course, shoplifting is not advisable. Shoplifting can be a form of thrill for some people, who try to see how much stealing they can get away with. However, that high feeling is only temporary, and of course it is also immoral.

Fist-fighting or throwing tantrums

Some people deal with stress by harming their loved ones. This is a maladaptive practice that is not only bad for your own wellbeing, but for the wellbeing of others. Rather than aiming to hurt someone, it is better to self-reflect in private and to learn how to calm down. It is important to practice safe and good habits to reduce anger in times of conflict.

Throwing tantrums rarely solves anything. In fact, it could turn people away from you. So rather than throwing fists and getting more upset, learn how to take a breather and to calm down, easing your mind and getting into a more relaxed state of being. Then, you can begin to form safer connections with people and also learn how to form your thoughts before you take impulsive action.

Damaging property

Along with throwing tantrums and fist-fighting, damaging property is another maladaptive coping skill that is highly destructive. Some people have a tendency to punch holes in walls or destroy other people’s property. Rather than using violent means to get your thoughts across, it is better to find ways to alleviate your stress and not fly off the handle.

Perhaps a better way of deflecting your anger is to punch something soft such as a pillow. That way, you don’t hurt yourself or other people’s (or your) property in the process. Or, you can engage in activities and sports such as jiu jitsu or basketball to release your anger.

Gambling

Gambling a little bit is okay. But if you form an addiction to gambling, you could lose out on all your life’s savings if you’re not careful. You want to make sure that if you do gamble, that it’s only for pocket change, what you can afford to lose out on. Otherwise, it is best to avoid gambling.

Hoarding items

Nothing speaks stress than a messy environment. You want to make sure your things are in order and organized. A messy environment can lead to more stress and anxiety. When everything is nice and clean, it is not only pleasant to look at, but easier to function in.

Negative self talk

Some people engage in negative self talk. When you spend most of your time talking yourself down, it can take a toll on you. And if you get too caught up bringing yourself down, you will have a hard time finding the good in life and prevent yourself from enjoying life.

One way to deflect negative self talk is to learn how to remove negative beliefs about yourself or about the world around you. You may want to journal your thoughts out and focus on the positives about yourself. Write about your strengths, and find ways to strengthen and address your weaknesses.

Even something as simple as practicing gratitude daily could help improve your negative self talk. Talk to yourself as you would talk to a friend who is struggling. Or, talk it out through therapy. A little positivity can go a long way once you redirect the negativity through positive self talk.

Self isolation or social withdrawal

Many people tend to self isolate themselves when they are stuck in a rut. However, it can be beneficial to engage in more social interactions as a way to combat stress. If you’re not feeling in the mood, start off small. Dress up every day as if you have some place to be. Brush your teeth. Comb your hair. Paint your nails.

You don’t even have to engage directly with people if you’re not in the mood. What you can do instead is go for a nice walk out in your neighborhood. Maybe say hi to the mailman or to your neighbors. You could put on earphones if you’re feeling antisocial, but at least going out once in the daytime can be beneficial for you. Get some sunlight each day.

Bad hygiene

Some people practice poor hygiene as a result of not caring for themselves. You might not have to take a shower daily, but at least bathe or shower as frequently as needed (a few times per week) to refreshen your body. Comb your hair so that it is nice and neat.

Taking care of your personal hygiene is not only good for you, but pleasant for the people around you. You eliminate bad body odors through washing your body. And overall, you feel better, nice and clean.

Emotional dysregulation

When you experience emotional dysregulation, you find it difficult to control your emotive responses. For example, you may be sensitive and be prone to crying a lot. Or, you may have a hard time managing your anger.

Rather than going with the emotion, it is a good idea to see where that emotion is coming from. See if you can get to the root of the problem. Then, do your best to address it either on your own or with the help of a loved one or therapist.

Overall, there are many maladaptive coping skills. This is just the tip of the iceberg. Being aware of your maladaptive coping skills can help you figure out how to better manage your stressors and practice more positive or adaptive coping skills. It’s important to identify the maladaptive coping skills that you face regularly in order to find another good habit to replace it with.

Just to give an example, let’s say one of your go-to maladaptive coping skills is to smoke cigarettes. Rather than smoking a cigarette, you might find it more beneficial to talk to a loved one or a therapist instead. Or, you might find it better to engage in a yoga class. Perhaps you can try listening to a meditation track that emphasizes breathing. There are plenty of these meditation tracks available on YouTube.

Try your best to deflect some of your maladaptive behaviors with more positive or adaptive skills. If you have many negative coping skills, you may want to start off with the most pressing maladaptive behaviors first. Then, gradually build up a toolbox of positive coping skills that you can rely on instead (e.g. listening to music or belting out your favorite song rather than punching a wall).

Embracing Yourself

When you’re feeling down and blue, the best person to turn to is yourself. You can be your own best friend in times of trouble. It requires you to practice self-care and self-love. In a sense, it requires you to be selfish, but in a compassionate and loving way. When you take care of yourself, you are outwardly showing that you want to receive happiness and love in return. You should make sure that you learn how to take care of yourself before you can receive from others.

When we are children, we don’t know much about this world or how it works. We do not know how to take care of ourselves. We look up to our parents or adult supervisors to show us the ropes. But as we become older, we have to learn more and more how to depend on ourselves.

In actuality, we receive help from many different sources. For example, there are government-funded programs to help varieties of people, from abused folks to depressed children. In society, we learn how to make money and exchange it for goods and services produced by the labor of other people. Still, we must learn how to take care of ourselves at a basic level (e.g. hygiene, food, shelter) in order to function in society.

There are many ways in which you can take care of yourself beyond just the basic needs. And, you should find a way to satisfy all those needs and wants. You deserve it!

Love Yourself

The first step in leading a fulfilling life is to first have true love for yourself. Many people confuse love for being conditional. Sometimes, we don’t love ourselves due to our appearance or due to our status as dictated by society. But we don’t have to give into that feeling of unworthiness. If we can look within ourselves and start from a place of love, our world can unfold in beautiful ways.

How can you practice love for yourself?

There are many ways in which you can express love for yourself. These habits are ones that you should build daily in order to maintain a high positive state of being. It requires you to let go of all those negative and fearful thoughts. This may seem difficult, but it does not have to be with techniques you can utilize such as through cognitive behavioral therapy or in removing negative beliefs about yourself.

The first step in loving yourself is to look within your past and to forgive yourself for any mistakes or failures you’ve experienced. You have to look at who you are and realize that you are the creator of your own reality, in a positive way. That is, you can change your actions to align with this higher level of thinking.

Removing negative blocks or beliefs

To walk you through an example, let’s say that as a kid, you were bullied a lot. Perhaps your parents knew but did nothing about it, or your parents didn’t know because you were trying to deal with it on your own. Just because a group of kids decided to bully you, does not mean that you are unworthy of love. It does not mean that you are a mistake or failure in any way. It could mean that some kids out there are bullies because their parents raised them in the wrong way. Or, it could mean that you may have been bullied as a kid, but those same people may have matured and grew up and realized that bullying was the wrong thing to do. It could mean that the bullies were jealous of you and were taking out their insecurities on you. It could mean many things.

Rather than believing that you are unworthy, why not conclude something more powerful? You could say that bullies might have gotten to you in the past, but now you’re strong and have a voice and can defend yourself as needed. Or if your friends and family knew that this was going on, they would defend you.

Practicing self-care

Self-care is huge in the act of loving yourself. You have to be conscious of your state of being. If you must take a shower, you’ll take one. If it’s time to brush your teeth, you’ll brush them. You can practice self-care daily just by modifying and knowing your daily morning and nighttime routines.

Some people get bored of routines, but some structure is needed in order to take care of your hygiene and appearance. Some argue that appearance does not matter, but I beg to differ. If appearance did not matter, then we would not have the ability to see. It’s important to take care of yourself daily.

Personally, I have a sort of checklist for tasks I must accomplish in the morning and in the nighttime. Sometimes when I know that I’m going to go out later in the day, I prepare lunch in the morning so that I don’t have to scramble for time later on in the day. Or, I’ll set aside some of my clothes the night before so that I don’t have to think about what to wear the next day.

Self-care can also include shaving, putting on a facial mask, preparing your bag for the next day, laundry, cooking for yourself, grocery shopping, cleaning and organizing your desktop space (physically or virtually), and more. Sometimes, you don’t have to do these tasks daily. You can do them weekly (such as doing laundry or going grocery shopping).

You can also engage in reflective tasks such as journalling. Journalling allows us to express our thoughts and ideas more concretely. You have something to refer back to just as you are trying to figure out yourself, perhaps while attempting to discover your life purpose or greater truths about yourself and other people.

My suggestion to you if you’re just beginning to love yourself is to first remove limiting beliefs. Then, instill a few good habits into your daily routines. Starting off with just one habit is better than tackling them all. That’s because you can gradually shift into having a routine rather than chaotically trying to implement a bunch of habits all at once.

The habits I recommend starting with include taking a shower daily (or at least every other day or every two days if you don’t sweat a lot), and exercising at least 5 minutes a day. Then, gradually build up. I know, five minutes of exercise seems like nothing. But what we’re trying to do here is build up new habits if you’re starting from nothing, not jump off the handle only to crash and burn. Then after you get used to that habit and are still maintaining it (maybe after a week of accomplishing the goal every day), you can increase it to 10 minutes a day. After another week of accomplishing it, go to 15 minutes. If you mess up, restart by going at however many minutes you last started off and try to maintain it for a week straight before moving on to the next level.

Self-care is part of the journey. And even if it’s hard to maintain good habits at first, eventually you will be able to build them up over time. You can do anything you put your mind to. It just takes some time and a bit of self-discipline, which you can learn to build up too. Remember, if you want to love others, you have to first start with yourself. (;

Why Surrendering is Sometimes Good

Sometimes, we overexert ourselves and feel overwhelmed. When these times are present, it’s best to find ways to relax and engage in stress-free activities. Surrendering does not necessarily mean that you are weak. Even if it is seen as being weak, it is not. Sometimes, surrendering can be a wise choice.

We are often at wars with ourselves. We battle our own inner demons. Some people are better at managing their inner chaos than others. If you find it hard to overcome the struggle, it’s okay. As Aaliyah once said in her song Try Again, “Cause if at first you don’t succeed. You can dust it off and try again.”

There are micro and macro ways of surrendering. The macro ways of surrendering are in terms of global affairs. Sometimes, countries are at war with each other due to misunderstandings and greed. Or in the case of low income or middle class people, they may choose to surrender to the legal and political system just because they are not sure of how it works (for example, paying taxes when you don’t actually owe any money).

Surrendering also gives us a chance to explore ourselves. We can figure out our life purpose by experiencing old and new activities. We can find the things that we enjoy. We can reflect upon ourselves and find out what we truly desire.

I think in the end, all people want is happiness. If you tend to be a busy person and find your life to be unfulfilling, you can start over bit by bit or completely, rejuvenate yourself, and learn what it is that you wish to do.

For people who take full-on breaks, there are a variety of ways to surrender and relax:

– Going for walks
– Sleeping more
Journalling
– Spending more time with friends and family
– Stretching
– Taking time off from your job or business
– Travelling somewhere

Don’t feel bad if you have to take a break for yourself to figure out what’s going on within you. There’s nothing wrong with failing or giving up. And just because you give up one time, that’s okay, because you can always find a way to get up again. (;

How to Set Up Boundaries for Yourself

People have all sorts of different boundaries. According to a handout from Wellness Reproductions, people who have healthy boundaries know how to set up limits and know what they will allow others to do or not to do. People with unhealthy boundaries have trouble trusting people and have poorly defined limitations.

A way for you to figure out what your boundaries and limitations are is to first figure out what you do and do not like. For example, some people are serious and do not like to joke around. Others do not like being told what to do.

The way in which we can develop healthy boundaries is to be clear about what it is that you will or will not accept. Once you figure out what those boundaries are, you should stand up for those boundaries and values that you are aligned with.

Some people prefer to be left alone, and others prefer to seek help from others. And during the course of our lifetime, some people prefer privacy and may later change to seeking help, and vice versa. When you feel as if your boundary is being pushed, you should speak up for yourself and say no. There is nothing wrong with saying no to another person, and you shouldn’t feel as if you cannot decline a request.

Personally for myself, nowadays, I like spending a lot of time alone (personal privacy). But other times, I like socializing with friends. I haven’t been able to do that much lately as my life became kind of hectic and busy, but I would like to reconnect with some of my friends and family again.

It can be difficult to set up boundaries at first, but over time, you can figure out how to set up those boundaries. Make sure those boundaries are clearly defined. For example, if you do not like being touched by other people, you should speak up for yourself and say, “Don’t touch me”, or “Keep your hands off me.”

You also should be careful about the people you associate yourself with. Some people are selfish and greedy, and some others are truly selfless. But if you can find those people who know how to balance being selfish and selfless, you’ve found something special.

One boundary I set up for myself is, “Don’t touch me”, unless I am comfortable with you. The second way that I set up a boundary for myself is to tell people no and ask them to leave me alone when I feel uncomfortable.

Everyone has various triggers and responses. So, you must learn how to accept other people’s boundaries as well. You cannot be that selfish and just consider yourself. You have to consider what others want too. And of course, you have to be careful and learn how to trust.

Another way you can set up boundaries is to limit your interactions with certain people. For example, you may set a schedule so that you do not have to receive phone calls past a certain time (perhaps your bedtime).

And, you should learn how to respect others’ boundaries too. Some people don’t know how to do this. But, you have to continue trying and doing your best to set up boundaries for yourself.

Responsibility

You’re not responsible for anyone else. You are responsible for yourself. We all have to be there for ourselves. You have to learn how to do it. Sometimes, this world can seem scary and evil, but it does not have to be that way. All you have to do is learn how to master your thoughts.

The mind likes to play tricks on us sometimes, but we have to learn that our minds are not us. Our minds are not us because they are filled with many thoughts that we formed during our childhood. And whatever our minds are doing can be traced back to our brains, because the brain is designed to form thoughts and beliefs. Beliefs are formed by our minds. And responsibility is a part of it too. We have to learn how our brains are wired in order to know the truth.

How the Brain Works

There is something tricky about the brain. The brain can manipulate its cells to work for its body, and it can alter its state to a higher level of thinking. It means that you can learn how to focus your thoughts on either positive or negative thinking.

Personally, I choose to focus on the positive, because it makes no sense (in my opinion) to focus on the negative. Negativity just attracts more negativity. However, there are some situations in which I use the negative emotions such as fear, because those emotions can be signs of what we need to focus on. It is good that the brain can experience both the negative and positive, because that is how life works. And what better way to take care of life than to take responsibility for your brain? Feed your brain good thoughts, and good things will come flying your way.

How to Be Mindful of Your Body

We also have to be mindful of how we use our bodies. Physical activity is good, as it allows your body to become stronger over time. If you’re not crazy about exercise, you can enjoy fun activities such as golfing, scuba diving, rock climbing, or dancing. You may also want to try other soothing techniques such as shaving (carefully, of course), taking a warm shower or bath, and eating healthy foods. You can even try stimulating your senses through different activities such as aromatherapy and horticulture.

Why Do Some People Escape Responsibility?

Sometimes, people escape responsibility because they don’t know what they’re doing. And other times, people are unsure about how they can take responsibility. There are many broke people who don’t know how to make more money or how to meet their basic survival needs. There are also many rich people who are not sure about what to do with their money, and so they just save it for later. There’s nothing wrong with this, but it’s important to think smart about what you need to do.

Responsibility can be scary for some people, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Plan out your thoughts first. Then, write down some of your ideas for how you would like your life to be. When you outline your thoughts, you can think more clearly and you can learn how to be more responsible.

Personally for myself, I try my best to take responsibility for my life. But sometimes, I get confused. It’s okay to be confused sometimes. And sometimes, you may need external help in order to figure out your life. There are calm and rational ways to do this. When seeking help from others, don’t try to use aggression. Try expressing yourself with assertion.

Why Music Can Be Healing for the Soul

Music can be therapeutic. There are many genres of music that we choose to listen to: emo, punk, rock, gothic, rock and roll, classical, pop, R&B, foreign, K-pop, J-pop, C-pop, and more. What we choose to listen to can depict and influence our mood.

Personally, when I listen to classical music, it feels calm and relaxed. It makes me feel like I am in peace. It helps me to get in a meditative state of being. I like classical music because I used to play it when I was younger, and I took lessons for two years and learned how to enjoy it. But others might not have a taste for it because it is from

My favorite genres to listen to are pop and K-pop, though I have shifted over to listening more to American pop these days. I used to listen to some K-pop and J-pop when I was younger, so I am familiar with it and enjoy it a lot.

Listening to music can influence your mood. So, we should be careful about the kinds of music we listen to. We attract good into our life by listening to music that is nice and upbeat. We attract more negativity into our lives by listening to emo music, and I know this by experience. So first, learn how different genres of music influence your mood. Choose the one you identify with to express yourself.

Listening to music and dancing or singing to music can be healing for the soul. Try experimenting with different sounds until you find the music that you like. Try not to resolve to negative coping skills that are harmful.

You can also listen to music while taking care of other things. For example, when you’re organizing and cleaning, you can enjoy listening to music in the background. Exciting music could help with that too. Or if you would like, you can listen to classical music while blogging.

You can even listen to music while journalling and map your thoughts out. Maybe you could talk about how the music influences your mood while you’re writing. Or, you can talk about how you identify yourself with the kind of music that you like.

What Karma Teaches Us About People

Karma is a confusing subject for many people. I believe in karma, because whatever you give does eventually come back. Good things happen all the time to both “good” people and “bad” people. But what makes a person “bad” or “good”?

I believe that karma works with law of attraction. Good karma always get rewarded. However, you may have to face some difficult obstacles in order to receive rewards. It’s not necessarily bad karma. It just depends on whether you faced it or not.

The same goes for people. We label people as being different categories: black, white, hispanic, Puerto Rican, Latino, Indian, poor, rich, bad, good, wealthy, and so forth. But we have to learn how to get along with each other, because what comes around goes and around. And the quicker you catch onto those lessons, the faster you become rewarded.

It also depends on the person. Some people are only able to tolerate a little bit of hard work and dedication, while others learn how to excel and move as fast as lightning or thunder.

Nowadays, I consider myself an A player at resolving my own karma. I learned how to get along better with my family and how to trust my instincts more. A players are able to balance their lives very carefully as to not work with the wrong kinds of people. A players are always on a mission to better their lives in the right kinds of ways. The interesting thing about this is that anyone can call themselves an A player, so long as they have that kind of confidence in themselves.

What karma can teach us about people is that we have to be careful about the types of people we surround ourselves with. And, we must learn how to keep our minds at a calm and relaxed state at all times. We have to learn how to be balanced. There are some things in this world that are dangerous, and some things that are not. But we do not need to give into the fear. We can learn how to resonate at a higher frequency by believing in ourselves first. Take the lessons one by one and learn how to resolve them on your own.