Category: Responsibility

What is Acceptance?

What is acceptance, and how does one learn to accept reality?

Acceptance is when you surrender to the truth. Many people live in denial and succumb to their present circumstances by using negative coping skills such as drinking or smoking. They become too comfortable that they are scared or wary of trying anything new. These people lack a higher sense of purpose and instead live paycheck to paycheck, filling the void inside by just consuming as much as they can.

I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way. You can learn how to enjoy life by first accepting where you are. Whether you’re a teenager or college student struggling to figure out what kind of career you would like to pursue, or even a working professional who has had it with the corporate world, you can achieve anything if you put your mind to it and first just accept where you are.

Acceptance can be a scary path for some people, but it doesn’t have to be so. First, you have to take a good look at yourself. What is your life like? Is it neat and organized? Is it a chaotic mess?

Most people live in a chaotic mess through a combination of environment, physical wellbeing, mindset, and spirit. The easiest area to lead a more fulfilling life is to start with your physical wellbeing. Accept you body’s current state (i.e. overweight, underweight, weak arms, strong legs, farsightedness, etc.). You can start off by going to the gym or going for a walk in the neighborhood if you’re the type of person who has not been that physically active.

For those who can handle risks like an entrepreneur, I suggest skipping all the way to the top of Maslow’s hierarchy after accomplishing your physiological needs first: self-actualization. That’s because if you start off with something like a job, you may find it unfulfilling and sink into a negative state. It’s best to get your basic needs met (food, water, shelter, exercise for your body), and then shoot all the way to the top of what it is that you’d like your life to be.

How do I accept my mistakes or my past?

You can learn to accept your past or mistakes by first identifying what it is that is bothering you. Is it your living space? Is it your health? Are you stressed out from the people who are living in the same household? Figure out what’s wrong first.

Then, explore other possibilities. Can you accept where your mindset is right now and learn how to master it slowly over time? Of course you can. You can start by building up habits that will help you master your mindset. Start with a morning routine. Set goals for making money to help fix up your environment.

Everyone makes mistakes. I purchased PC parts when I was visiting my parents at home, back when I was traveling during my break from a job that I had in South Korea. When I brought the parts back to my studio apartment in South Korea, the PC failed and did not work. After I left my job, I brought my PC parts with me to my parent’s house (where I now live). The parts continued to fail and I could not find a way to make it work. Still to this day, I have all the PC parts that I invested in, but it does not function properly. That was one of my failures with technology, and it bothered me a lot because of how much money I put into it. However, I learned to accept that it was not working and I have moved on.

You have to accept failures and learn how to be present, seeking all the hidden opportunities out there. Learn from your mistakes quickly and move on. Especially if you’re a business-oriented person, this is a valuable lesson. Accept your mistakes, your past, grow from it, and then learn how to do better next time. Mistakes are a part of life. Your perception on those mistakes can allow you to heal and excel at life. (;

How to Set Up Boundaries for Yourself

People have all sorts of different boundaries. According to a handout from Wellness Reproductions, people who have healthy boundaries know how to set up limits and know what they will allow others to do or not to do. People with unhealthy boundaries have trouble trusting people and have poorly defined limitations.

A way for you to figure out what your boundaries and limitations are is to first figure out what you do and do not like. For example, some people are serious and do not like to joke around. Others do not like being told what to do.

The way in which we can develop healthy boundaries is to be clear about what it is that you will or will not accept. Once you figure out what those boundaries are, you should stand up for those boundaries and values that you are aligned with.

Some people prefer to be left alone, and others prefer to seek help from others. And during the course of our lifetime, some people prefer privacy and may later change to seeking help, and vice versa. When you feel as if your boundary is being pushed, you should speak up for yourself and say no. There is nothing wrong with saying no to another person, and you shouldn’t feel as if you cannot decline a request.

Personally for myself, nowadays, I like spending a lot of time alone (personal privacy). But other times, I like socializing with friends. I haven’t been able to do that much lately as my life became kind of hectic and busy, but I would like to reconnect with some of my friends and family again.

It can be difficult to set up boundaries at first, but over time, you can figure out how to set up those boundaries. Make sure those boundaries are clearly defined. For example, if you do not like being touched by other people, you should speak up for yourself and say, “Don’t touch me”, or “Keep your hands off me.”

You also should be careful about the people you associate yourself with. Some people are selfish and greedy, and some others are truly selfless. But if you can find those people who know how to balance being selfish and selfless, you’ve found something special.

One boundary I set up for myself is, “Don’t touch me”, unless I am comfortable with you. The second way that I set up a boundary for myself is to tell people no and ask them to leave me alone when I feel uncomfortable.

Everyone has various triggers and responses. So, you must learn how to accept other people’s boundaries as well. You cannot be that selfish and just consider yourself. You have to consider what others want too. And of course, you have to be careful and learn how to trust.

Another way you can set up boundaries is to limit your interactions with certain people. For example, you may set a schedule so that you do not have to receive phone calls past a certain time (perhaps your bedtime).

And, you should learn how to respect others’ boundaries too. Some people don’t know how to do this. But, you have to continue trying and doing your best to set up boundaries for yourself.

Responsibility

You’re not responsible for anyone else. You are responsible for yourself. We all have to be there for ourselves. You have to learn how to do it. Sometimes, this world can seem scary and evil, but it does not have to be that way. All you have to do is learn how to master your thoughts.

The mind likes to play tricks on us sometimes, but we have to learn that our minds are not us. Our minds are not us because they are filled with many thoughts that we formed during our childhood. And whatever our minds are doing can be traced back to our brains, because the brain is designed to form thoughts and beliefs. Beliefs are formed by our minds. And responsibility is a part of it too. We have to learn how our brains are wired in order to know the truth.

How the Brain Works

There is something tricky about the brain. The brain can manipulate its cells to work for its body, and it can alter its state to a higher level of thinking. It means that you can learn how to focus your thoughts on either positive or negative thinking.

Personally, I choose to focus on the positive, because it makes no sense (in my opinion) to focus on the negative. Negativity just attracts more negativity. However, there are some situations in which I use the negative emotions such as fear, because those emotions can be signs of what we need to focus on. It is good that the brain can experience both the negative and positive, because that is how life works. And what better way to take care of life than to take responsibility for your brain? Feed your brain good thoughts, and good things will come flying your way.

How to Be Mindful of Your Body

We also have to be mindful of how we use our bodies. Physical activity is good, as it allows your body to become stronger over time. If you’re not crazy about exercise, you can enjoy fun activities such as golfing, scuba diving, rock climbing, or dancing. You may also want to try other soothing techniques such as shaving (carefully, of course), taking a warm shower or bath, and eating healthy foods. You can even try stimulating your senses through different activities such as aromatherapy and horticulture.

Why Do Some People Escape Responsibility?

Sometimes, people escape responsibility because they don’t know what they’re doing. And other times, people are unsure about how they can take responsibility. There are many broke people who don’t know how to make more money or how to meet their basic survival needs. There are also many rich people who are not sure about what to do with their money, and so they just save it for later. There’s nothing wrong with this, but it’s important to think smart about what you need to do.

Responsibility can be scary for some people, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Plan out your thoughts first. Then, write down some of your ideas for how you would like your life to be. When you outline your thoughts, you can think more clearly and you can learn how to be more responsible.

Personally for myself, I try my best to take responsibility for my life. But sometimes, I get confused. It’s okay to be confused sometimes. And sometimes, you may need external help in order to figure out your life. There are calm and rational ways to do this. When seeking help from others, don’t try to use aggression. Try expressing yourself with assertion.