Sometimes, we become self-absorbed in our own thoughts. It is good to be mindful and to practice conscious thinking. But sometimes, we have to pull away from our thoughts in order to live in the present. Too much overthinking can create unnecessary anxiety or anticipation for the future.
In order to get out of our own heads, we can practice positive coping skills to ground us in the moment. Some examples of these are focusing on your breath, listening to a guided meditation, or even going out for a nice walk. Engaging in these positive coping skills can allow you to manage your stress and to stop overanalyzing your thoughts or yourself. There are other ways to get out of your own head such as through exercise, yoga, listening to music, or taking a warm shower. So generally, practicing self-care can help us to overcome these hurdles.
When our minds project too much into the future or ruminate over and over again into the past, we feel unsettled and unsatisfied. But if we learn how to enjoy things in the present moment, we can learn how to let go and enjoy life. We can learn how to overcome each hurdle one step at a time. Just as Will Smith mentioned one time in an interview, he said that you don’t set out to build a grand wall; you learn to lay one brick at a time as perfectly as you can. When we focus on taking small steps, we can eventually build those steps into something greater, to running a full marathon, either figuratively or actually if you are into running marathons. (;
Another great coping skill to getting out of your head is to journal or blog. Write your feelings out. Maybe write a poem, or compose a whole song. That’s what I do with my music. Learn how to express yourself in constructive ways.
If you feel as if you’re life is completely overwhelming, you may want to start by first addressing your health. Make sure that your basic needs such as food, water, and shelter are taken care of. And, learn how to keep those needs satisfied on a daily basis.
Then once you have had your basic needs met, you can look to fulfilling your higher needs. I would say that once your basic needs are covered, you can jump straight to self-actualization. What is your bigger purpose in life? Is it to be an inspiration to others? Is it to express yourself with your music? Is it to cook food for people?
What activities do you enjoy engaging in that can contribute value to society? This is a hard question for people to answer right away, especially if you’ve been forced to engage in different subjects or topics that were not in alignment with your own interests. Plus, we have a hard time thinking creatively of such activities that seem like they would make no money when in actuality, there is a way to make money from any type of skill. But less on the money aspect, what are some activities that you can engage in right now that will aid you in lowering your stress and increase enjoyment in your life? Because ultimately, you deserve to enjoy your life and to be happy.
So to reiterate, it is best to engage in activities of self-care until you can find a purpose in life that drives you to excel in every area of your life. Some ways in which I engage in self-care is to go to the gym, take a warm shower before bedtime, get enough rest at nighttime, and to listen to uplifting or upbeat music. I also like to dress up in the morning so that I feel more awake or more purposeful to start my da. Maybe you can start off with engaging in one of these activities too. Make it a goal to instill one good habit every day for a week. Once you achieve that, add onto that by setting another habitual goal. Then once that week passes successfully with no breaks of those habits, set another daily habit. Keep going until soon, you have a chain of good habits to keep you going.
If you’re just tired of the same old routine from day to day, maybe it’s just time for you to try something new. For example, you could go for a walk in a different part of town. Or, you could try dining at a new restaurant. Read a new book. Watch a new movie. Sign up for a dance class. Try something different and see how it affects your emotional state of being.
The best way to stay out of your head is to take constructive action. Try your best to relax and get into a calm state of being. Then, engage in activities that get you going in a positive direction. But just in case you are feeling aggressive or nervous or anxious, it may benefit you to sign up to, for example, a martial arts class. Release your pent up frustration through constructive movements.
It takes time and practice to learn how to get out of your own head. However, it is not impossible. It’s important that you realize that your thoughts are just thoughts. They do not always contain the full truth, as our minds are always seeking for answers. We cannot possibly know the answer to every question. But if we just try our best every day, we can go a long way into the path of happiness, learning how to deal with our mindsets and making the best out of it as we can.