Category: Balance

Retiring In Your 20s

I’ve been trying to pursue passive income or creating my own business for a few years now. I guess in a sense you can say that I’ve retired from the workforce early because I don’t grind a typical 9-5 job like most people. But what is it like, retiring in your 20s? How do you spend your time when you’re not working all day?

For many people, retiring early seems like a dream. You can soak up the sun at the beach and head out on adventurous road trips. But when you’re done lounging around doing nothing, what do you really do with your time? Especially if you’re used to studying or working all the time, what do you do with all those extra hours?

For me, I honestly don’t know what to do with all the extra time I’ve accumulated. Sometimes, I drift off in space and just get into a meditative state. I’ve thought long and hard about what I’d like to do with all these extra hours, and I just can’t seem to come up with anything. I’ve even consider *gasp* getting a job just to spend my time. I’ve tried to come up with ways to contribute to society in large meaningful ways and have drawn a blank. I thought with all this extra time that I’d come up with some creative solution, but I’ve got nothing to be honest.

I used to have hobbies to keep me occupied, but I’ve grown bored of some of these hobbies. Even hobbies that used to excite me to get out of bed in the morning have become quite dull. For example, I enjoy a little singing, but recording a full-length song can get boring fast. I don’t enjoy it as much.

I think most people would just say to get a job at this point, but it makes me really question the meaning. of life. There was a time when jobs did not exist, believe it or not. And people were free to do whatever they wanted. I wonder how people spent their time then.

I’ve thought about reading books and blogging, but when it comes to blogging, I can’t always get a post out. Sometimes, I’m dry out of ideas. And as for reading, I get bored of books fairly quickly. I prefer to read articles, but those are short and don’t fill the time as much.

So with all that, I decided to at least dabble into passive income again. Blogging is a good start into that. I can get my thoughts out and share with the world, earning a little through ad revenue along the way. I could look to share my expertise with people through digital products such as e-courses.

I think maybe I should look into joining some sort of community, maybe one on passive income. But my anti-social ways creep in. I’m social from time to time, but I haven’t been as social as I could be lately. It seems like everything takes effort these days. I wish I was back to the days when I was passionate about everything I was doing. Even something as mundane as shaving could be seen as enjoyable. But now, many things seem boring.

What would you do if you retired in your 20s? I imagine most people would say they would go traveling or they would take up a hobby such as learning the piano. I guess that’s something I can do again. I do dabble on the keyboard here and there. Maybe it is something that I could pursue.

Someone I know said that it’s not good to have all the free time in the world. I wonder if I agree with this statement. On the one hand, for example if you’re a stay-at-home mom or dad, you have house chores and errands that keep you busy. Or when you’re a student, you have classes and homework. But when you’re retired, all you have to do is maybe manage your finances and make sure that you’re eating and possibly taking medicine or vitamins and taking showers. And then, you have a whole lot of time to kill.

I used to think of work as play. Before, I used to spend hours perfecting the recording of a song or drafting a nice eBook. Nowadays, I’ve lost my passion for these things. Has that ever happened to you, where you used to be so passionate about certain tasks but now you can’t seem to make yourself do those tasks anymore? It’s the same with me and cleaning. I used to obsess over cleaning, and now I can’t even be bothered. On the one hand, some may say I’m depressed, but on the other hand, I think I’m just bored. I wonder what I can do to get out of this bored state. It’s times like these that I sometimes think that retiring in your 20s in overrated.

Feelings Are Not Facts

Sometimes, we perceive feelings to be facts. But, that is not always the case. Feelings arise from our perception of reality.

Our minds create thoughts, conclusions that we base on our experiences. We can always change the story as we go. Sometimes, we may think negatively. Other times, we may think positively. And still other times, we may think on a neutral standpoint.

You want to be careful about how you think. There are some people who tend to be highly optimistic. But the problem with thinking positively all the time is that you may face certain dangers.

Other times, there are overly pessimistic people who do not know how to escape their negative thinking. These people tend to look at the downside of events. And, they do not know how to achieve a higher state of positive thinking.

The best approach is to balance the positive with the negative. This perception of reality is useful so that you know how to be wary of dangers while still being open to new and fun experiences.

Just because we feel a certain way does not mean that we always have to be that way. It could mean that we are not aligned with our higher principles of truth, love, and power (more about this through Steve Pavlina’s book on Personal Development for Smart People). When we are aligned with these three principles, we are able to function at a higher and more purposeful level.

Remember that feelings are temporary. Character is more solid, and lays out a good foundation for yourself. As Mahatma Gandhi once said:

“Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny.”

So it is best to process your thoughts and feelings by getting yourself into a calm state of being. That is when you can think logically and rationally. It is also when you are able to get into a higher state of enlightenment. That is when you are able to achieve anything your put your mind to.

Feelings arise from our perceptions of reality. Some people may enjoy when it snows, but others might look at it as impeding doom, another day of shoveling or driving carefully on the streets. But you have to realize that events are just events. It only creates meaning if we assign it meaning.

Some ways in which we can process our feelings include the follow:

– Singing
– Dancing
– Writing
– Painting
– Meditating

For more help in processing your feelings, therapy can be useful. You can seek services locally. Or alternatively, you can try self-therapy, journalling out your thoughts and seeing where those thoughts are coming from.

10 Ways to Release Your Aggression

There are times when we feel angry or irritated. Our anger can be directed at a person, an event, or thing. However, we do not have to sink down into negativity.

Anger is an emotion of whenever we feel wronged. Sometimes, we get upset by situations not going our way. Rather than exploding on someone when we feel wronged, we can take that energy and express it in more positive or constructive ways. Here are 10 ways in which you can express your anger constructively:

Martial Arts

Sign up for martial arts in your local area. There are a variety of martial arts: jiu jitsu, karate, and kung fu just to name a few. Look into what martial arts you like best through YouTube. Then, check out what is available where you live and try it out.

No money? You can also try learning through YouTube videos. Mimic the moves and start with beginner techniques. Then, work your way up to advanced martial arts moves.

Punching Bag

A punching bag is a good way to release stress and anger. Some people feel like they need to release their anger through a physical punch. Rather than hitting someone or punching a wall, using a punching bag is a great alternative.

Punching a punching bag can also help you release stress and tension in your body. Your body becomes stronger as you box around with a punching bag.

Running

Running is a good way to get your energy out. You can run on a treadmill or elliptical. Otherwise, you can go running outside in your neighborhood or a local park.

Weight-Lifting
You can either go to the gym or buy your own set of dumbbells for home use. Again, you can follow YouTube videos or you can experiment with your own ideas. You can purchase dumbbells through Amazon, or you can find a store in your area (such as Five Below). Be careful not to overexert yourself though.

Journalling or Blogging

Get yourself a journal or try blogging. Express your anger through writing. It’s a good way to get your feelings and emotions out. Try writing a letter to yourself or to the person that you’re angry with. If it’s a circumstance that is making you upset, try verbalizing your thoughts out on paper and see if there’s a possible solution.

Listening to Music

You can choose to listen to angry music, or maybe tune into something more positive to lift your spirits. Either way works. Some people believe that it’s not good to listen to aggressive songs, but it may help you to process your feelings better. Positive upbeat music is good because it helps divert your attention to something better. However, you want to make sure that you are learning from your anger and not just putting it off to the side.

Dancing

You can release your aggression through dance. If you’re not sure how to dance, just try practicing in front of a mirror. Or, try enrolling in some local dance classes. You can find some discounts to classes such as through Groupon.

Singing/Rapping

Singing or rapping is a good way to release stress and tension as well. You can sing loudly or go to karaoke with some friends. If you don’t have anyone to go to karaoke with, you can also look up karaoke videos on YouTube and follow along to the lyrics.

Songwriting or Poetry

This is similar to journalling, but in a different way. You can write your own songs or lyrics to get your feelings and emotions out. Poetry is a good way to explore yourself and your state of being. An added bonus is that once you finish writing a song or a poem, you can post it online or share it with others who may relate.

Creating Artwork

Try painting a picture. Or, color a picture through coloring books like mandalas. This is a soothing activity that can easy your mind. You can even try creative collages of the kind of life you wish you could have. Creating artwork is a good way to express your anger, but also divert it in a positive light.

Why Surrendering is Sometimes Good

Sometimes, we overexert ourselves and feel overwhelmed. When these times are present, it’s best to find ways to relax and engage in stress-free activities. Surrendering does not necessarily mean that you are weak. Even if it is seen as being weak, it is not. Sometimes, surrendering can be a wise choice.

We are often at wars with ourselves. We battle our own inner demons. Some people are better at managing their inner chaos than others. If you find it hard to overcome the struggle, it’s okay. As Aaliyah once said in her song Try Again, “Cause if at first you don’t succeed. You can dust it off and try again.”

There are micro and macro ways of surrendering. The macro ways of surrendering are in terms of global affairs. Sometimes, countries are at war with each other due to misunderstandings and greed. Or in the case of low income or middle class people, they may choose to surrender to the legal and political system just because they are not sure of how it works (for example, paying taxes when you don’t actually owe any money).

Surrendering also gives us a chance to explore ourselves. We can figure out our life purpose by experiencing old and new activities. We can find the things that we enjoy. We can reflect upon ourselves and find out what we truly desire.

I think in the end, all people want is happiness. If you tend to be a busy person and find your life to be unfulfilling, you can start over bit by bit or completely, rejuvenate yourself, and learn what it is that you wish to do.

For people who take full-on breaks, there are a variety of ways to surrender and relax:

– Going for walks
– Sleeping more
Journalling
– Spending more time with friends and family
– Stretching
– Taking time off from your job or business
– Travelling somewhere

Don’t feel bad if you have to take a break for yourself to figure out what’s going on within you. There’s nothing wrong with failing or giving up. And just because you give up one time, that’s okay, because you can always find a way to get up again. (;

The Difference Between Subjective and Objective Realities

“Life is like a library owned by the author. In it are a few books which he wrote himself, but most of them were written for him.” – Harry Emerson Fosdick

I believe that there is a dualism of subjective and objective realities. With few books, it means that there are only a few books which we tell about ourselves. But, there is a whole host of stories that are out there about you by other living souls.

Lately, I’ve been battling back and forth between subjective and objective realities. I believe that everyone was put on Earth for a purpose. Everyone has their own unique talents and gifts that they use. But seldom do people reach their highest potential (higher self or higher being).

The few books written by you represent subjective reality. And the many books written by other people about you is part of the objective reality. At least, that is the way I perceive it to be.

Somehow, you have to find a balance between the subjective and objective realities. You have to learn how to accept your circumstances and how to enjoy it better.

You may want to experiment with both realities. Some people prefer to work at it alone (subjective reality), and others perceive their lives as being controlled by other beings.

I like to have control over my life most times, which is why I prefer subjective reality. But, I still realize that there are physical limitations that do not allow us to live our lives invincibly. One example of that is your body’s strength and endurance. If you push yourself too hard, you may crash. Vice versa, if you do not take care of your body, you will suffer the consequences.

Some people like to think of the objective world as being spiritual. Personally, I believe that there are things outside of our world that are miracles. Do you ever wonder about the other planets in outer space? People often learn from church that Earth is created by God. But what about the stars and other moons and galaxies out there? Where did they all come from?

My guess is that there is a higher being who created all of these amazing objects. And, humankind is also amazing because they come up with all sorts of cool technologies and gadgets that are fun to use. We are out own creators. We can create our own realities, but it takes time due to physical boundaries and limitations.

Aside from this dualism, I believe that there are different laws that guide us. The most basic ones include gravitational pull and Law of Attraction. These physical boundaries and limitations are part of the objective reality.

There are times when you can influence objective reality. For example, you cannot fully control other people’s minds or emotions. However, you can influence them by just staying grounded and being yourself. You can teach others your way of living just by engaging in activities that you enjoy. Personally, I enjoy physical activity (such as dancing, Zumba, yoga, or kickboxing), and I find that my friends and family are more likely to go to the gym when I do this.

Why Judgment is Sometimes Stupid

Judgment is stupid because it never solves anything. Some people are quick to judge others based on appearance first, and character second. Others choose character over appearance. But either way, you can learn a lot about a person based on how they act, the words they speak, and the way they look.

Some people do not take good care of themselves, and instead of looking inwards and reflecting on their actions, they take the blame and misplace it on someone else. You have to learn how to take a real good look at yourself to figure out what is wrong. In my opinion, judgment gets in the way of true love and true connection.

That being said, judgment is normal. It is what people naturally do with the power of their mind. And rather than judging people, it is better to learn how to get along and work with one another.

People can sometimes be quick to judge, and you can learn how to approach these people in a friendly matter. Or, you can choose not to associate with those kinds of people. Either way works. But, you have to be smart about it. You have to figure out who to trust. And sometimes, trusting can be difficult. But, it is possible to learn how to get along with each other.

Why Complaining Never Solves Anything

Complaining is usually a waste of time. The more time people spend arguing with each other, the less time we have focusing on enjoying a good life. My general rule of thumb is to not complain, but to proactively work on finding solutions.

Often times, people don’t know what they are doing, and so they tend to just complain over and over again. You have to learn how to think above and to just ignore what other people are doing or saying to you. You have to learn how to be strong and how to just be yourself.

Sometimes, you need to vent, but complaining is a negative coping skill. It’s better to either voice out your thoughts or to journal out your feelings. Other positive coping skills include listening to music, exercising, or singing.

When we complain about others, we reveal some of our own inner insecurities. What we find attractive in other people is what we like in ourselves. What we find disgusting in other people is what we find disgusting in ourselves.

How Does One Stop Complaining?

If you want to change your behavior and stop complaining, I suggest starting with meditating or journalling first. Then, you can clear your mind and learn how to think more logically and realistically (or positively at times).

Other strategies include seeking help from a therapist, though you don’t necessarily have to go to a therapist if you don’t need one. Reading self help material or relying on yourself to work out issues is also a good way of taking care of yourself and complaining less.

You also have to realize that it takes a bit of time and effort to receive something good in life. So if you keep complaining about having a bad life, you will continue to have a bad life. Whereas, if you complain less and just try, you can live a more fulfilling life. Take charge of your life, and never let it go! (;

Law of Reciprocity

There are some universal laws and hermetic principles that work in mysterious ways. Most people are familiar with Law of Attraction, but there is another law called the Law of Reciprocity. The law of reciprocity works like this: Whatever you give away, you will receive back.

The reason that this law is so powerful is that the more you give, the more you will receive back. For example, I am blogging on this website in order to give back passive value. And in return, I will receive passive income.

When you give away positive energy, you receive back positive energy. When you give away negative energy, you receive back negative energy. This seems like the Law of Attraction. However, it is slightly different. The reason is because with Law of Attraction, your state of being is what attracts good things into your life. With Law of Reciprocity, you actually give and receive back.

I like using both laws of Law of Attraction and Law of Reciprocity together. Universe gives back to those who help Universe. Masters of Law of Attraction know how to stay calm, logical, and rational the majority of the time. And masters of Law of Reciprocity know that the more you give, the more you will receive back. It’s more like whatever you give, you get to keep. So don’t worry about giving away things for free. You have to just understand that the free things you give away will also stay with you (i.e. knowledge).

Why Music Can Be Healing for the Soul

Music can be therapeutic. There are many genres of music that we choose to listen to: emo, punk, rock, gothic, rock and roll, classical, pop, R&B, foreign, K-pop, J-pop, C-pop, and more. What we choose to listen to can depict and influence our mood.

Personally, when I listen to classical music, it feels calm and relaxed. It makes me feel like I am in peace. It helps me to get in a meditative state of being. I like classical music because I used to play it when I was younger, and I took lessons for two years and learned how to enjoy it. But others might not have a taste for it because it is from

My favorite genres to listen to are pop and K-pop, though I have shifted over to listening more to American pop these days. I used to listen to some K-pop and J-pop when I was younger, so I am familiar with it and enjoy it a lot.

Listening to music can influence your mood. So, we should be careful about the kinds of music we listen to. We attract good into our life by listening to music that is nice and upbeat. We attract more negativity into our lives by listening to emo music, and I know this by experience. So first, learn how different genres of music influence your mood. Choose the one you identify with to express yourself.

Listening to music and dancing or singing to music can be healing for the soul. Try experimenting with different sounds until you find the music that you like. Try not to resolve to negative coping skills that are harmful.

You can also listen to music while taking care of other things. For example, when you’re organizing and cleaning, you can enjoy listening to music in the background. Exciting music could help with that too. Or if you would like, you can listen to classical music while blogging.

You can even listen to music while journalling and map your thoughts out. Maybe you could talk about how the music influences your mood while you’re writing. Or, you can talk about how you identify yourself with the kind of music that you like.

How to Be a True Hustler

Hustling takes hard work and dedication, but it can be achieved. It’s easy to get caught up in distractions, but you have to learn how to ignore the distractions and to focus. It takes time to learn how to focus too. Focus can be hard to some people, but for me, it now becomes natural.

My schooling experience has been a little weird. I love learning. However, I enjoy having the freedom to learn things at my own pace. That is how I learned about programming, mathematics, music, and so forth and so on. I have many subjects that I am interested in learning about. So I just try learning everything one day at a time.

I used to have trouble concentrating on my life, but I know how to do it very well now. And I know how to take care of myself in a proper way. It takes practice, but it’s possible to be balanced and to learn how to achieve your dreams.

Hustling takes hard work. You have to practice good self-care, which means you have to be hygienic and take care of your immediate needs first (such as water, food, clothes, and shelter). And on top of that, you have to work in a calm and relaxed manner so that you can manifest good things into your life.

You can start slowly by goal-setting first. Identify a goal for each day one at a time, and then go week by week, and then by month to month and so forth. Or if that is too hard, go at it one second or minute at a time. Start from where you are. Go at your own pace. And learn how to get along with other people by using your communication skills.

Goal-setting is a little difficult for some people, so I will briefly explain how you can set goals. First, start with a journal or a planner. Journal out your thoughts to figure out what’s most important to you. And use a planner to jot down quick checklists for what you want to accomplish during the day. This is how you start small.

Then after that, you can move on to higher forms of planning such as mapping out your future plans (week by week, month by month, year by year, and possibly even further than that). Try imagining talking to a younger version of yourself first to figure out what needs to be accomplished.

I hope that this article was helpful. And if you’re still interested in figuring out how to live as a hustler, try checking out my other articles such as How to Surround Yourself with A Players and The People You Surround Yourself With.