Author: Nessy

26. Philly. Sagittarius. Creativepreneur.

10 Reasons to Stop Shaving Your Legs

1. A lot of time is wasted shaving your legs.

Let’s say you start shaving when you’re 13 and stop when you are 65. If you shave twice a week for fifteen minutes at a time, you will spend 81,120 minutes or 1352 hours shaving. That’s a little over 56 days of shaving. Personally for myself, when I shave, it takes anywhere from 20-45 minutes to shave my legs depending on how long the hair is and whether I’m using a regular razor in the shower or an electric shaver. And some people shave more than twice a week to maintain smooth legs. Aren’t there many other better things to do with your time than waste it on shaving? Shaving your legs just seems like such a boring option.

2. It grows back quickly into stubble.

After all that time that you spend on shaving, it’s just going to grow back anyway. There’s the dreaded stubble. And it’s pricklier than if you just left your legs alone in the first place. So much for smooth legs.

3. It costs money.

Let’s say you get a 6-pack refill of Gilette for $18 and you go through a razor every three weeks. That’s approximately $295 a year that you spend replacing razors. If you shave from the age of 13 all the way up to the age of 65, that’s $15,340 that you’re spending on razors. Aren’t there a whole lot of other better things to be spending your money on?

4. Razor burn.

What’s worse than that itchy prickly feeling you get after you shave? First, you’re punished to spend your time shaving. Then, you’re punished for having smooth legs. It’s a curse.

5. Nicks and cuts.

I have yet to find someone who doesn’t deal with nicks and cuts while shaving. You could be as careful as possible, but the cuts can still occur. You are dealing with sharp pieces of metal after all. Cuts are bound to happen. Even if you don’t see any cuts or nicks, there are actually micro-tears that could happen to your skin, which leads me to my next point.

6. Infections.

When you get micro-tears or even regular cuts and nicks on your skin from shaving, you’re prone to all sorts of infection. Your legs become a breeding ground for bad germs. Nothing sexier than infection-swarmed legs, smooth to the touch, am I right? 😛

7. Impressing the wrong people.

If you shave because of societal pressure to do so, then you’re doing it wrong. You shouldn’t have to shave just to impress people. You should be able to be yourself, regardless of whether you shave or not. It’s a case of those who care don’t matter and those who matter don’t care. Besides, it’s actually a lot easier once you stop caring about what other people think and are just yourself, hair and all. Let headaches about constantly having smooth legs and more time to enjoy whatever it is you’re doing.

8. Warmth in the winter.

The least you could do is stop shaving in the winter. That’s when your hair can keep you warm. It’s extra insulation to your pants or stockings. Why de-fuzz all that extra warmth away?

9. Fake sense of self-confidence.

Lots of women reporting feeling higher levels of self-confidence after they shave, but it’s just a fake boost. If you were really self-confident, it wouldn’t matter whether there is hair on your legs or not. Real self-confidence comes from accepting yourself as who you are, not as this polished version of yourself that you project to the world as being. Ditch the razor and learn to embrace yourself, hair and all.

10. Men don’t bother, so why should women?

Men have learned to embrace their natural hair without being subject to bullying and all. Why should women be any different? And who decided that hair was masculine if it isn’t on the top of your head? Hair grows everywhere for everyone. Yes, women grow hair on their legs, their backs, their arms, their armpits, even their bellies and their chests. Oh, and let’s not forget their mustaches, chins, and their cheeks. Hair can grow anywhere on the body for both men and women. It’s time that we stop ridiculing women for growing hair in places that are natural to grow hair in, and time that we start accepting and loving each other for our natural selves.

So what do you say? Is it time that you’re going to ditch your razor?

Retiring In Your 20s

I’ve been trying to pursue passive income or creating my own business for a few years now. I guess in a sense you can say that I’ve retired from the workforce early because I don’t grind a typical 9-5 job like most people. But what is it like, retiring in your 20s? How do you spend your time when you’re not working all day?

For many people, retiring early seems like a dream. You can soak up the sun at the beach and head out on adventurous road trips. But when you’re done lounging around doing nothing, what do you really do with your time? Especially if you’re used to studying or working all the time, what do you do with all those extra hours?

For me, I honestly don’t know what to do with all the extra time I’ve accumulated. Sometimes, I drift off in space and just get into a meditative state. I’ve thought long and hard about what I’d like to do with all these extra hours, and I just can’t seem to come up with anything. I’ve even consider *gasp* getting a job just to spend my time. I’ve tried to come up with ways to contribute to society in large meaningful ways and have drawn a blank. I thought with all this extra time that I’d come up with some creative solution, but I’ve got nothing to be honest.

I used to have hobbies to keep me occupied, but I’ve grown bored of some of these hobbies. Even hobbies that used to excite me to get out of bed in the morning have become quite dull. For example, I enjoy a little singing, but recording a full-length song can get boring fast. I don’t enjoy it as much.

I think most people would just say to get a job at this point, but it makes me really question the meaning. of life. There was a time when jobs did not exist, believe it or not. And people were free to do whatever they wanted. I wonder how people spent their time then.

I’ve thought about reading books and blogging, but when it comes to blogging, I can’t always get a post out. Sometimes, I’m dry out of ideas. And as for reading, I get bored of books fairly quickly. I prefer to read articles, but those are short and don’t fill the time as much.

So with all that, I decided to at least dabble into passive income again. Blogging is a good start into that. I can get my thoughts out and share with the world, earning a little through ad revenue along the way. I could look to share my expertise with people through digital products such as e-courses.

I think maybe I should look into joining some sort of community, maybe one on passive income. But my anti-social ways creep in. I’m social from time to time, but I haven’t been as social as I could be lately. It seems like everything takes effort these days. I wish I was back to the days when I was passionate about everything I was doing. Even something as mundane as shaving could be seen as enjoyable. But now, many things seem boring.

What would you do if you retired in your 20s? I imagine most people would say they would go traveling or they would take up a hobby such as learning the piano. I guess that’s something I can do again. I do dabble on the keyboard here and there. Maybe it is something that I could pursue.

Someone I know said that it’s not good to have all the free time in the world. I wonder if I agree with this statement. On the one hand, for example if you’re a stay-at-home mom or dad, you have house chores and errands that keep you busy. Or when you’re a student, you have classes and homework. But when you’re retired, all you have to do is maybe manage your finances and make sure that you’re eating and possibly taking medicine or vitamins and taking showers. And then, you have a whole lot of time to kill.

I used to think of work as play. Before, I used to spend hours perfecting the recording of a song or drafting a nice eBook. Nowadays, I’ve lost my passion for these things. Has that ever happened to you, where you used to be so passionate about certain tasks but now you can’t seem to make yourself do those tasks anymore? It’s the same with me and cleaning. I used to obsess over cleaning, and now I can’t even be bothered. On the one hand, some may say I’m depressed, but on the other hand, I think I’m just bored. I wonder what I can do to get out of this bored state. It’s times like these that I sometimes think that retiring in your 20s in overrated.

Making Passive Income Online 2019

Note: I realize that this blog post is all over the place, but I intend to keep it that way. This is mostly just to get my thoughts out on passive income. I doubt that this article will generate a lot of traffic. It’d be a miracle if I got to 100 views on this post.

I’m thinking about taking up passive income more seriously. My website has only generated a little money through AdSense. I know that there is a lot to do in terms of SEO and content in order to generate more money. But, I haven’t gotten down to the basics of how to continuously generate passive income month to month through blogging. I’m clueless as to where to start.

I know that it’s possible to make money off of your blog such as through people like Steve Pavlina. (Though Steve Pavlina stopped using AdSense, he uses affiliate marketing and donations to make money through his blog. And nowadays, he sells online courses too.) Steve suggested that I create a digital product too on music production, but I wasn’t sure how to teach music production nor figure out the logistics of it.

I think I could start somewhere simple like creating a music album or by simply returning to blogging again. But honestly, I don’t think either idea will make a lot of money unless I go through some serious marketing strategies. My music YouTube channel is only close to 700 subscribers, so potential profit is limited there.

Besides making passive income, I’d want to make sure that I’m providing enough passive value to earn that money. I’d want to make sure that whatever I am providing is worthwhile and is beneficial for the end user. Blogging fulfills that for me, though I don’t generate lots of traffic and I don’t earn lots of money through my current means (ads and Amazon product links, though I don’t think those links are generating income for me anymore since I haven’t ever made money through it and Amazon closes your account within 6 months of not generating any income).

Creating an online course seems to be the way to go. Though, I’m not sure what course to offer just yet. It could be on music production, but for something like GarageBand, I don’t know if it would generate many sales. I could see something like a music production course on LogicPro working out because those individuals are more serious about music making. But right now, I don’t use LogicPro on my computers.

I could also start up my YouTube channels again, though that hasn’t generated much income either. For song covers, my videos get demonetized and don’t generate any income at all as a result. My other videos haven’t garnered a lot of views either, so the ads don’t collect much money. I haven’t been in the mood to create vlogs or something or the sort.

I’ve dabbled with eBooks, but that hasn’t make much money either. I get a sale here and there through the year, but you could barely call it sizable income. It’s enough for spare change to buy snacks at Five Below. Then again, I haven’t aimed to write bestsellers. I’ve mostly been experimenting with it if anything.

So basically, I’m battling a few issues here. The first is that my knowledge of generating passive income is fairly limited to the basics. The second is lack of motivation to create certain kinds of digital products that will generate passive income (e.g. eBooks).

I wish that I could find some way to make passive income in a way that excites me. I haven’t blogged in a while, but that’s because I haven’t figured out what to write about. Every time I sat down to write, ideas would poof out of my head and I would stumble upon words to write and get nowhere fast. Even as I’m writing this blog post, I am stumbling over my words, not sure exactly what to write. But at least for now, blogging seems like one thing I could do in my pursuit to making passive income. I just have to figure out exactly what I’m going to write about in future blog posts.

I’d like to create an online course, though I’m stuck on the creation process. What should I teach? How much should I charge? What platform should I use, my own website or another website like Teachable? It’d be nice to set it up on my own website, though I’d have to go through the learning curve of setting up a course with usernames and online payment methods. I’d have to figure out the specifics. And honestly, that can be daunting, so maybe selling a course through a website like Teachable is better suited for me. It’d make less money, but the tradeoff is that it’d probably generate more traffic anyway than what I can make on my own website using the limited knowledge I have now.

I have to brush up on my resources for passive income generation. What I know so far is through websites such as Steve Pavlina’s. So, I’ve only dabbled into it. I don’t know much about passive income otherwise.

Real estate is another passive income opportunity, though it depends on what kind of real estate deal it is. I don’t have anywhere near the kind of money to make a significant investment that can be largely passive (such as buying 50 units in a prime location and hiring someone to manage the properties). My father suggested that I get my real estate license so that I can make money buying/selling properties for people while also being able to score on real estate deals that come my way, but it seems like a lot of work.

Passive income doesn’t necessarily have to be a lot of work. It can start off as something fun and evolve to make money over time, especially nowadays with the internet. Passive income can be simple. But generating lots of passive income seems to take time. I know people have made passive income “overnight” through creating online courses and whatnot, which is why it kind of appeals to me. But if passive income were that easy, everyone would be making it, right?

So anyway, there is my little rant on passive income and some ideas I’ve been thinking about in order to make it. I’m not sure where I’ll start and which direction I’ll go. I think I’ll see if I can make progress on the few cents I’ve generated through AdSense. I’m not sure if I’ll restart Amazon affiliate links, since the barrier is that I need to generate at least one sale to keep my account active, and generating that one sale has been a struggle so far. My Amazon affiliate account keeps closing, which means I have to generate a new username and new links each time to however many videos/blog posts I’ve been using them in. It’s a hassle. I’m not sure why Amazon does that. It’s better to keep the account active if someone has been clicking the links. But either way, I’ll be using AdSense at the very least.

I don’t have many friends who actively pursue passive income. So in terms of having a mastermind group on passive income, I’m starting from scratch here. If you or anyone else is pursuing passive income and would like to start some sort of mastermind group around it, feel free to contact me. We could start something together. Though be warned, I am quite a newbie when it comes to passive income. So, there isn’t much I could share with you other than ideas and letting you know what other people have done to generate passive income. It’s a start though, right? Better somewhere than nowhere.

How to Overcome Regret

At some point or another, we face the dreading feeling of regret. It may have been something we said to someone, or something we’ve lost out on. Whatever the case may be, regret does not feel good even in the slightest.

The best thing we can do in these moments is to forgive ourselves for whatever the outcome may have been. We are not perfect beings, after all. We are bound to make mistakes here and there, so it is best if we own up to it and accept that we may make some poor decisions in our life.

Forgiveness may be hard at first, but it is possible for all of us to forgive our past. We have to see that there are many other possibilities our there. Perhaps you made some decisions that led to your first breakup, or your first firing of a job. But if you can just see that there are many potential mates our there or that there are many other possible jobs out there for you, you may forgive yourself sooner than later. Perhaps if you could see that your ex or your job was not the best match for you necessarily, then you could forgive yourself for things ending in an awry state.

Overcoming regret requires you to master your mindset by reframing the situation. It may require you to see that the way things ended up are not necessarily your fault. Or even if it could be your fault, it may require you to see that it may have been for the best. It may have only hindered your progress and growth.

We all experience setbacks in our life, but that does not mean that we are our setbacks. We can overcome our past by learning and growing from those experiences. We could seek a deeper meaning and understanding into our past regrets and learn how to adapt for the future. In the end, it is all about our perspective of the matter.

Don’t Compare Your Chapter 1 to Someone Else’s Chapter 20

Today, I am reminded of this quote: “Don’t compare your chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 20.”

How easy is it for us to compare our lives to others’ lives? When we peek into other people’s lives, we may only see what’s good and not be aware of the bad. Or, we don’t realize the sacrifices it took to get to that point (e.g. the work it took for someone to now own a million-dollar home).

In addition to not comparing your chapter one to someone else’s chapter twenty, I think it’s important to not compare your chapter twenty to your chapter one. Life is progressive. Things are always changing. As you grow older, you age and you may develop certain unhealthy conditions. Or, you experience a situation different from before that may make it more difficult (e.g. having children to raise).

The best way to live is to live in your present moment. That’s easier said than done. But basically, you focus on what’s going on in front of you now and you enjoy where you are. There’s no need to compare. There will always be people who are better off, but that does not mean that you can’t enjoy right now.

If I was constantly comparing myself to others, I wouldn’t even bother blogging perhaps, because there are always others who provide much more valuable content. Or, someone could just be a better writer than I am. But today, I am choosing to blog out of enjoyment and out of a recent goal I set for myself. If I wasn’t as good of a writer as someone else out there, does that mean I have to quit? Of course not. You only get better with practice. It’s okay to be at the level that I am at right now.

I just thought of fitness as being an area of life in which it is easy to compare your chapter one to someone else’s chapter twenty. It’s easy to see someone bench pressing 225 lbs and going, “Okay, I quit. I’m never going to get that far.” But you don’t see the work behind it, the sacrifices that were made to get there, the time and the dedication put into it. Instead, you should go at your own pace. Figure out what’s right for you whether it is taking a Zumba class or just walking on the treadmill for a few minutes. Then, gradually work up your way from there.

There’s no need to compare yourself to others. Enjoy where you are right now. The journey is more important than the destination.

Eliminating the Non-Essentials in Life

The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials.” – Lin Yutang

There are many ways in which we can discover waste in our lives. The first most obvious way of seeking waste is through our material possessions. Often times, people hold onto tons of junk or clutter that end up consuming so much space. When you hold onto clutter, your mind can also be filled with clutter, having to take extra inventory of what is in front of you. So the best thing to do is to find a way to eliminate material possessions that we no longer use or desire to use.

Another example of a non-essential is a time-wasting activity. For example, smoking can be considered a time-waster, and a health hazard as well. Why waste your time smoking a cigarette when you could be doing something more fun or more productive? It’s a no-brainer to eliminate such habits and to replace them with more worthy time-consumers.

Just imagine how much extra mental clarity you would have if you lived in a clutter-free home. You would feel more relaxed and more at ease. Your eyes would have an easier time taking in the environment that you’ve created for yourself. A daily 5-minute clean up habit might be a good way to kickstart creating your clutter-free space.

One way to identify non-essentials is to track your time throughout the day. Keep note of everything you do in a single day (or even a single week if you’re that dedicated). Start off by writing the time, then how many minutes you spent on a certain activity and write that activity down. For example, you may spend 15 minutes in the bathroom, 12 minutes of which were actually you on your smartphone watching a YouTube video. Or you might spend 1 hour on Facebook at another time. It’s a good way of tracking non-essential tasks and trying to find more ways to make that time more meaningful throughout the day.

Reclaim your precious time and space! Let’s not live another life of waste.

The Difference Between Successful People and Mediocre People

The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will.” – Vince Lombardi

 

I find this quote to be true. There are different ways in which success shows up in a person’s life. It could be owning a nice home, raising two beautiful loving children, or progressing in one’s career. But either way, a lack of will can get in the way and crush a person’s success by derailing their efforts.

How does one build up willpower to crush and conquer life? For one, you may have to change your environment. Most people’s environments do not set them up for success and in fact can hinder their progress. For example, if you live with people who settle for comfort and who dissuade you from focusing on what success means to you, then you will have negative thoughts come into your mind that will inevitably hinder your growth. The same happens when you live in a chaotic environment (clutter or living in poverty-stricken areas). So the first step in building up more willpower is to first examine your environment and see if there is anything you can do to change it and foster a growth-oriented mindset.

You may also benefit from associating with people who achieved the level of success that you so wish to attain. You could join local Meetups. Or, you can start one of your own. Surrounding yourself with the people who live in the successful type of mindset increases your ability to foster a success-driven mindset as well. They say you are the average of the people you spend your time with in proportion to how long you spend your time with each person.

These days, I’ve been feeling a lack of will myself. Some ways in which I have been trying to increase my will is to, for example, take Zumba group classes. When I see how hard the instructor is working and how other people are doing in the class, it makes me want to increase my efforts and try my best as well. It’s a good way for me to improve my physical wellness when alone, I would probably just watch YouTube dance videos without getting up and trying it for myself.

I find that a lack of knowledge is not necessarily a barrier for success. The most successful people in history in terms of monetary wealth are not the smartest or brightest people, but those who have been able to utilize other people’s intelligence or knowledge to create products or services of great value to society. They’ve learned that they don’t have to know it all to make it. The entrepreneurial mindset is that even if you don’t know how to do it, someone will, and so you can outsource those abilities to help you succeed in whatever it is you wish to do.

I don’t consider myself a good singer because my technique is off and I haven’t had proper vocal training. So what do I do when singing songs? I use technology (such as  the effects on GarageBand) to improve it. It takes my mediocre voice to the next level. So rather than giving up and saying that I’m not talented enough, I find a way to make it work and make my songs or covers sound nice.

Lack of strength does not matter either when it comes to success. There have been people who are blind or deaf (e.g. Helen Keller) or crippled who have turned their lives into success stories. “I’m not strong enough” just becomes a feeble excuse. And if you believe that you can’t, you won’t. Just as much as if you believe you can, you will. It is all a matter of perception. After all, you are what you feed your mind.

So there you have it, a wise quote on the difference between a successful person and others. It is all in how you develop your mindset. If you find that you have many negative thoughts hindering your success, it may be time for you to re-examine your thoughts and remove those limiting beliefs that are standing in your way.

Job Title: Personal Cheerleader

Today while I was attending Steve Pavlina’s Deep Abundance Integration call, I had the idea of becoming a personal cheerleader for others. Other words for it would be accountability partner, accountability buddy, accountability coach, and life coach. The reason I decided to go with “cheerleader” is because I would be utilizing positive affirmations and positive energy to motivate the person.

I wonder how much people would pay to have a personal cheerleader in their life. How much would you pay? Feel free to leave a comment.

Included in the service would be:

– Nearly 24/7 support (setting up calls in advance would be preferred so that phone calls don’t overlap), meaning that you’re only a phone call away to receive positive support and guidance.
– Daily text messages with positive affirmations and such, as well as checking in to track progress.

I’m still thinking about how to set up such a service. I’m interested in providing this type of service since this is something I naturally do with my friends. I like to motivate and inspire people to live to their fullest potential. And, I’ve succeeded in helping others achieve their goals.

What do you think of this kind of service? Is it something that you would be interested in paying for?

How to Overcome a Negative Mindset

Our minds have the tendency of thinking negatively. This is because our brains are built on survival mode. In order for us to live, our minds make conclusions based upon our experiences. Some of these conclusions are positive, such as eating food as a means of surviving. Others are negative, such as the avoidance of touching fire to prevent burns.

Our negative mindsets can be based upon conclusions that we’ve generated over several experiences. It might even just take one negative experience to create a negative perspective. But with practice, you can catch which negative ideas are actually causing you more harm than good.

Let’s say you’ve had an encounter with the opposite gender in school. You had a crush, and you decided to confess your feelings to this one person. Instead of receiving what you perceive to be a good response (acceptance), you are quickly rejected and humiliated. This experience make “scar you” for life and prevent you from seeking our romantic interests.

However, what if you could change that thought into a positive experience? What if you could perceive rejection as good, as it allows you to disassociate yourself from people who are not interested and give you a chance to move on to someone else? Of course, being rejected by your crush may not be a good feeling, but it allows you to move on and try with someone else. It removes all the ambiguity of does he/she like me or not.

The people who are greatest at overcoming negative mindsets are the ones who allow the negativity to come into their life and go just as easily. They are people who try to look at the brighter side of things. Or, they develop positive coping skills that allow them to move on from negativity. Some people go a step further by examining those negative events and learning from those experiences.

What do you do when you experience negativity? Do you wallow in it, or do you learn from it, look for the positive, and move on from it?

Is It Possible to Be Positive All the Time?

As much as we would like to be positive all the time, there comes those times when we sink down into negativity. It could happen for a number of reasons. Regardless, it’s okay to be negative at times. And although it isn’t possible to be positive 100%, we can try our best to look at the brighter side of a situation by practicing positive habits.

There are activities that lower your state of consciousness and that can cause you to sink down into negativity. For example, the 6 o’clock news may be filled with stories of bankruptcy, war, and neighborhood crime. If you watch this type of news on a daily basis, you may find yourself shifting into a fearful state of being.

Then, there are activities that boost your mindset. For example, you may find is enjoyable to attend a dance class. It’s a good way of not only self expression, but a physical and mental boost. You find it easy to focus on the positive during this kind of activity.

The easiest way into getting into a more positive mindset is to engage in hobbies and activities that boost your wellbeing. Some other activities that help you to stay positive is to listen to uplifting music, travel, and going for a walk. These activities allow you to achieve a higher state of consciousness, leaning more into principles of truth and love.

Do you find your mindset to be more positive or more negative? Comment down below and share your thoughts.