Month: March 2018

Embracing Yourself

When you’re feeling down and blue, the best person to turn to is yourself. You can be your own best friend in times of trouble. It requires you to practice self-care and self-love. In a sense, it requires you to be selfish, but in a compassionate and loving way. When you take care of yourself, you are outwardly showing that you want to receive happiness and love in return. You should make sure that you learn how to take care of yourself before you can receive from others.

When we are children, we don’t know much about this world or how it works. We do not know how to take care of ourselves. We look up to our parents or adult supervisors to show us the ropes. But as we become older, we have to learn more and more how to depend on ourselves.

In actuality, we receive help from many different sources. For example, there are government-funded programs to help varieties of people, from abused folks to depressed children. In society, we learn how to make money and exchange it for goods and services produced by the labor of other people. Still, we must learn how to take care of ourselves at a basic level (e.g. hygiene, food, shelter) in order to function in society.

There are many ways in which you can take care of yourself beyond just the basic needs. And, you should find a way to satisfy all those needs and wants. You deserve it!

Possibilities

“Knowledge of what is possible is the beginning of happiness.” – George Santayana

There are many different possibilities for your life. It takes a higher level of awareness to know what those possibilities are. It can be something as simple as choosing your next meal to something as life-changing as choosing your career.

Nowadays with technology, we have so many possibilities of what we can do with our time. You can start a business through a smartphone app. You can couch surf and travel for cheap. You can even become a well-known musician through YouTube if you market it the right way.

In our lives, we have infinite possibilities of what could happen. The paths that we ultimately decide to tread on depend on our core beliefs and values. So when we live our lives, we may not necessarily notice or be aware of all the possibilities available to us. Rather, we tune in to the paths of which the frequencies align with our needs and wants.

If we choose to tune into the negative, we will tread on the negative. And if we choose to tread on the positive, we will attract those positive routes. It is just as simple as that.

The negative paths are the ones that we do not feel aligned with. The positive paths are the ones that align with our values and make us feel connected. So, we filter out the possibilities based on our attitude and perspective. In order to tune into more possibilities, you have to let go of what you believe and open up a fresher perspective of life.

We are fortunate to have many possibilities available to us. Especially nowadays, creative expression is not only available as for fun but as a sustainable career. Just look at all the creativepreneurs that are out there, making money from doing what they love.

The possibilities are endless. The reason that this is so good is because we get to tune into whatever makes us happy. Whichever road you tread on has a lesson for you to learn, and it is knowledge of these possibilities that allow us to grow into our highest potential.

Never Giving Up is Success

Everyone experiences ups and downs in life. What separates fulfilled people from unfulfilled people is the determination to never give up. It is the commitment to doing a little better than the day before. And even when we are feeling down or get sick in the process, we navigate around it (e.g. taking medicine or drinking soup when you’re sick) and get back up again.

Life is what you make out of it. Never giving up is a sign of success. It means continually working to making things better. It requires a bit of flexibility in your plans, going with the waves of chaos and order as they come and go. And you are equipped with this knowingness that you can handle anything that life has coming your way.

I am reminded of Thomas Edison. He had to go through hundreds upon thousands of failures before he came up with the light bulb. It required him to be persistent and patient. He learned to enjoy the journey rather than getting discouraged by how long it took.

Is there a certain area in your life that you struggle to maintain? It may take time to fix, and that’s okay. Acknowledge that the problem is there, and try to take it a day at a time to fix it. Approach that area (or those areas) with gentle curiosity and see if you can improve it one step at a time.

How to Make Hard Work Fun

Work can be boring sometimes. But, it doesn’t have to be that way. Especially if you decide to go the entrepreneurial path, it can be lots of fun. You can combine play with work if you create a lifestyle first and work second.

When you create a lifestyle first, you choose the activities that are most appealing to you. For example, nowadays, I like to do the following: blogging, uploading videos, producing music, and writing eBooks. Thankfully with the age of digital technology, I am able to find ways to make money through these activities (passive income for the win!).

If you decide to be an artist, there are a few ways you can make money. You can sell art through websites such as Etsy. You can set up local workshops to teach people how to produce art. Or, you can create an online course in which you teach art.

I’m quite sure that I would not enjoy the typical 9-5 job. It requires you to perform the same skills time in and time out. Plus, there is not much room for growth. You may be promoted, but your skills may be limited to what that job entails.

As opposed to the entrepreneurial, the sky’s the limit. For myself, I have to utilize skills such as SEO, photoshopping, HTML, FTP, and content creation. When I post videos, I have to make sure that the lighting is just right and that the camera is set in the right angle. I have to do my own marketing. There’s a lot that I am learning to do on my own in the creativepreneur or solopreneur path.

Does my work ever get boring? Sometimes, it can seem repetitive and boring. But when that happens, I just throw on some music or try dabbling in another form of passive income. For example, sometimes I get tired of blogging. So, I’ll switch medias such as creating a podcast. Or, I’ll spend time writing eBooks instead. Or, I’ll pop in my microphone and belt out a song. It’s fun when you can be your own boss and make all the rules.

When you first make the change to making a living based off your lifestyle, it can be confusing. You may not know what exactly to do at first. And, you may not want to chase the money right away in the beginning. When you chase money, you are in it for the numbers alone. But when you put on your wizard’s hat, you can create anything you want and not worry so much about the money. The money will come rolling in so long as you are trying to actively give value or make a meaningful contribution to society.

For me, I knew that when I started this blog, I might not make much money. Part of it was that I did not know what to post. I was not sure what direction to take my blog. But as I restarted my blog and started writing again, I thought of this question, “What are some things people want to learn but struggle with, and can I help them through my writing?” That is the blueprint for my success. And even if I’m not making the return on investment right now, I know in time it will pay off. After all, there are people such as Leo Babauta and Steve Pavlina who have succeeded in this path, so why not I? (;

Hard work does not have to be a grind. It can be adventurous or fun. It is all about your mindset. If you can find a way to express your skills and talents and create a positive influence to multiple people, then the money will come your way. And even if it is just to a few people at a time in the beginning, that is still a good starting point.

Sometimes when I’m writing, I like to listen to some music in the background to get my creative juices flowing. Or, I like to sip on a fruit smoothie while getting a blog post out. Other times, I like to fully immerse myself in the experience and grow from it.

You too can learn how to mix hard work with play. You can find a happy balance between the two, not giving too much into just the money and not second-guessing yourself out of the fun hustle. I hope this blog post inspires you to find creative ways to express yourself that may also help you to cash in some extra moolah. (;

How to Handle Negative Thoughts

Our minds tend to get stuck in the past, forming negativity thoughts or beliefs based upon our experiences. When we get stuck in negativity, we hold ourselves back and hinder our progress. We avoid engaging in certain activities that may be beneficial for us or that may help us to grow as human beings.

The reason our minds come up with negative ideas is for the sake of survival. However, nowadays with technological advancement, we are fortunate enough to not have to succumb to our own survival. We depend on each other for the sake of survival. For example, we have supermarkets that we can go to in order to buy food. We have government programs such as food stamps for people who are unable to make a livelihood based on their physical and mental wellness.

When our minds come up with a negative thought or concludes a negative belief, it can hold us back from truly enjoying life. It does not even have to seem so negative, yet it can hinder our progress. For example, if you as a kid rarely spoke up, you might have been classified as being shy. If enough people tell you that you are shy or you get used to not speaking up, you bring truth to that label. But once you realize that there are other possible truths (e.g. maybe you were not shy but observant and trying to take information in, or maybe you didn’t speak much back then but now you have more things to say), then you begin to realize that anything could be a possibility, and it should leave you feeling empowered in progressing with life or changing your behaviors.

When we have negative thoughts, there are a few different approaches you can take. The first is to drown in that negative thought and allow it to hinder us. The second is to ignore the thought and to just do whatever you want in spite of that negative thought. The third is to examine that thought and see where it is coming from, realizing that it doesn’t have to be that way, and accepting a more empowering thought.

Going with the negative thought

Let’s examine the first mode of thinking, giving into the negative thought. When you give into the negative thought, you may be tempted to practice maladaptive behaviors that only serve to destruct you and others around you. Or, you arouse feelings that sink you into that negative thought bubble, seeping more into anger, resentment, guilt, or depression. You get stuck in a rut.

Sometimes, we need to give into the negative thoughts as a way to process our feelings and emotions. For example, if someone passes away, you may miss them and cry your heart out. Doing that is okay, because we sometimes feel the need to express our sadness just as much as we may feel the need to express our joy. It’s okay to sink low sometimes and to feel a certain way.

What’s tricky is that we must not let that negativity sit with us for long periods of time. For example, just because you fail one exam at school, does not mean that you’re going to fail the next one. It could just mean that you have to modify your study habits so that you can pass the next exam. Just because you make a mistake once doesn’t mean that you’re doomed to making the same mistake a second time. And even if you fail or make a mistake several times, that doesn’t mean that you are not learning. You are, and it’s just a matter of time before you succeed or make that great leap in progress.

Ignoring the thought and moving on

Ignoring the negative thought takes more willpower than just going with the thought. It requires you to consciously decide that you will be positive no matter what. There is an upside and a downside to this method. The first good thing about this is that you can always challenge your thoughts and decide for yourself that you will do something positive instead. The downside is that it does require some willpower and conscious thinking or acting in order to combat that thought. You will feel some sort of resistance. Plus, there’s only so many things that we can be conscious about at a single moment. It requires you to zone out and to just tune into your senses, living in the present moment.

This method is mostly useful when you are out and about, not able to fully focus on the negative thought and figure out where it is stemming from. For example, if someone says something off-putting or seemingly offensive to you, you may choose to ignore it at the moment and to just head off your way, focusing on what you are doing. You don’t have to process it at the moment. You can process it later when you’re alone. But, you don’t have to take in something negative that someone else says about you. You can decide for yourself about who you are.

I used this method as a way to cope with cyberbullying. There have been a few times when someone left hateful comments on my videos, whether it is racist or just plain rude. But rather than taking that negativity in, I either delete those hateful comments and block them, or I just altogether ignore those people and just move on with my life. Those people don’t know me, and I don’t know them. But rather than stooping down to their level of rudeness, I choose to live my life in a positive manner. It is a conscious approach that I make an effort towards every single day.

Examining where those thoughts arise

Our minds come up with all sorts of ideas, both negative and positive. When we don’t receive what we want, our minds try to justify it and come up with ideas as to why you aren’t getting what you desire. But sometimes, those thoughts are rooted in fear. As I mentioned earlier, our brains have been developed that way for the sake of survival, especially when we needed it most in past times. But, we do not have to accept those thoughts and live in a fear-based mindset.

As a child, you may have a parent who seemed busy all the time and could barely spend time with you. They may have been living paycheck to paycheck. But as a child, maybe you didn’t understand that they were stressed out and busy all the time in order to make a decent living. Maybe to you, it meant that you were not important. But there are many other possibilities as to why they behaved the way they did. To you, it may have seemed true that you were not important. But another possible truth is that maybe you were important and they’re way of expressing care was to make money in order to supply your basic needs. Maybe you were not important to them at the moment, but later you became important to them. Or maybe you were always important, but they just could not find the proper time to express their love to you.

When you are able to reflect back on the past and see where those thoughts arise, we can see that there are many possible truths. Most likely, you didn’t see the words “I’m not important” written on the walls or even spoken. There was no color or shape to it. It’s just a thought. So rather than giving into the negative thoughts, why not focus on the positive and live in a more empowering way? For example, you could replace those negative thoughts with, “I am important. I am worthy. I am deserving of love. I have a lot to offer this world. And, I am a positive influence on other people.”

Negative feelings or emotions

Another thing is that you might not hear the negative thought, but you might feel a negative way. If you look back to the event, you can realize that it was just an event, serving no negative feeling at all. The negative feeling is just a feeling. And as with every feeling, it is fleeting, and it is able to be changed. A person can’t make you feel anything. It is your body, and your body naturally responds to events. But rather than sinking into negative emotions or feelings, we can arise and feel empowered. We can see that those seemingly negative events doesn’t happen anymore, and we can feel happy about it. We can tune into more of our positive and empowering feelings.

I would like to argue that no one can make you feel anything except for yourself. You are in control of your body. And even if you have natural reactions to things (your instinct), you can realize that those feelings were just feelings in the moment. Your feelings don’t have to be the way they are. You can change them with practice. And also, just because you used to be nervous about certain things (e.g. public speaking), doesn’t mean that you can’t ever stand in front of an audience and speak. The nervousness is just a response triggered by an event, and if you can see that the event had no initial meaning behind it, then you can understand that you can exist in another state of being.

All in all, having negative thoughts is normal. But, we don’t have to succumb to those negative ideas forever. We can consciously pick them out and reframe our minds into a more positive state of being. We can live confidently and happily in this world with just a little effort. What empowering thoughts or feelings would you like to live up to?

How to Change Our Negative Thoughts

The majority of us suffer internally through our minds. It happens naturally because our minds are designed to form conclusions based upon our experiences. When we experience what we perceive to be a negative outcome repeatedly, we tend to form negative beliefs about ourselves or the world around us in order to avoid those seemingly negative events. The problem is that if you continue to build up these negative beliefs, eventually you become stuck in a comfort zone that is hard to get out of. Your mind entraps you, and you become a slave to your beliefs. Rather than enjoying life as it is with the ups and the downs, you succumb to mediocrity.

Beliefs are nothing more than thoughts that we repeatedly tell ours, which we perceive to be true perceptions upon our reality. We navigate the world based upon our beliefs of how the world works and what we mean to it. If you form negative beliefs, it hinders your progress as a human being. It means that you may avoid doing certain tasks in order to live in a safe bubble.

How can we change our beliefs?

The first step to changing our beliefs is to examine them and to know that they are there. Sometimes, the negative scripts can be the most challenging ones to find. They are masked in our everyday actions. We naturally respond or react to events based on what we believe. So for example, if you define yourself as a person who cannot tolerate the cold during winter, you may bundle up or choose not to go outside. Rather than getting used to the cold and enjoying it for what it is, you perceive it to be negative, thus something that you avoid. If you can wrap your head around the cold being a refreshing feeling and maybe get used to the idea of running in the cold in order to raise your body temperature, you have shifted to a higher level of thinking through positivity. At the same time, you don’t want to go as far as doing something reckless, such as walking naked out in the cold. You can still be level-headed while leaning into a new perspective of finding ways to enjoy the cold (e.g. playing with the snow on cold snowy winter days).

When we form negative beliefs of people based on previous relationships we’ve experienced, we limit ourselves to the type of people we’d like to surround ourselves with. At the same time, you want to be careful about what those relationships meant to you. If you’re only way of determining your self worth is based on what a few people think of you (e.g. your family), then you become a slave to their thoughts and ideas. Why live that way when you can enjoy life on your own terms? We don’t have to give in to the negative self talk, such as “I don’t deserve love” or “I am worthless”. You can change your perception to being that now, you are in charge of your mind, and that you do deserve to be loved. You can shift it to being that you do care about other people, and other people would care about you once they get to know you. You can understand that love comes in many different forms, and although your parents or siblings did not know how to express it well, you know that deep down inside they care and they just want you to be happy.

Those childhood events may have shaped you and became your identity, but it doesn’t have to be that way. You get to decide who it is that you are. When we are young, people try to assign meaning to our life by figuring it out through how we act. But the truth is when you were a baby, you did not have all these meanings and connections of your identity at all. You were just living, breathing, pooping, taking it a day at a time. And through your five senses, you learned how the world works. There are some inescapable and mysterious ways of how the world works and that people have tried to figure out, such as the laws of gravitational pull and force. But then, there are meanings which we assign ourselves based off of what others say about us or how we perceive ourselves to be. If we didn’t talk much as a child, people might perceive us to be shy, and then we hold onto that mentality of “I’m shy”, avoiding confrontation in order to be aligned with that thought. However once you break out of that mold and realize that perhaps you were not shy but observant, you begin to form a new world of possibilities, where maybe you decide that you will be more outgoing and outspoken.

Replacing the negative belief with positive affirmations

If you are unsatisfied with your appearance, you might have the belief of “I’m ugly”. This is based off of the appearances that we are used to seeing in the media or on the streets. When we compare ourselves to other people through our appearances, we succumb to the ideology of believing that we do not look good. We spend our time trying to groom ourselves to look better. There is nothing wrong with taking some time and effort to enhance our appearance. However to the extreme, we might give in to methods such as plastic surgery in order to be satisfied with our appearance. Again, it is everyone’s choice what they may do to their bodies, but it can be damaging over time to be super focused on appearance rather than personality. And, it can be damaging to one’s self-esteem and self-worth.

Rather than thinking that you are ugly, you can acknowledge times that you’ve felt pretty with your natural appearance, or you can find traits about your appearance that you admire (e.g. kind eyes, good smile, nice head of hair, etc.). You can take a good look of yourself in the mirror and gently admire those good traits that you do have. And, you can admire that you are unique and different from those around you or on television. Replace “I’m ugly” with “I am beautiful” or “I am loved”. Acknowledge how you look, and learn how to be satisfied with what you’ve got. Of course, if you want to apply makeup to enhance your features, go right ahead. But don’t try to just mask your appearance by caking on layers of foundation. Try instead to solve any glaring problems if it is in your control. For example, no one likes acne. But rather than calling yourself ugly for having acne, you can realize that it is a health indicator that something needs to change. Perhaps you can get a skin treatment from a trusted dermatologist, you can drink more water on a daily basis, or you can get into a face care routine.

If you are feeling worthless because your parents used to ignore your cries for help, realize that it doesn’t have to be the case that you were worthless. It could mean that your parents just did not know what to do to make you feel better. They might have ignored you because they were busy working or were stressed out. They might have not known how to handle such a responsibility of taking care of you. Just because they treated you a certain way, does not mean that you are worthless. It could mean that you deserved love, but they did not know that attention was what you were seeking. And now that you’re older, you can turn to yourself for love and admiration. You might even be able to attract a partner who would love spending time with you. All you have to do is tune into the stream of consciousness of self-love. (;

You have to also realize that these negative thoughts are just what they are, thoughts. They are just ideas formed by your mind. You can point our a color or a shape for these thoughts. You did not “see” these thoughts. You experienced some events, and there were not inherent meanings behind those events. Can you point out when someone said that you were worthless? And even if someone said something like that, does it have to necessarily be true? Sometimes, the ones we love that are closest to us hurt us through their words. But can you see that their words are just words, not meaning anything inherently about yourself?

How should I feel once I remove several limiting beliefs?

After you finish removing several negative beliefs about yourself, you will feel as if you can conquer the world. You can do anything that you put your mind to. It is about having all your power back. You are the owner of not only your mind, but your body. Your bodily presence can be made known, or it can hide behind the rest of society and how they think. But, you don’t have to feel as if you are alone. You will feel as if you are connected with the rest of the world in a positive way once you’ve successfully demolished all the negative beliefs or negative self-talk that you catch yourself doing. And, you will reach a new state of enlightenment, the idea that the world is not so scary as it once seemed to be.

Interactive Trader with Shark Tank’s Kevin O’Leary

Recently, I attend an event featuring Shark Tank’s Kevin O’Leary along with guest speakers Steve Sitkowski and Jeff Tomasulo. They promoted a software called Interactive Trader, a tool designed to help you make “smart financial decisions” with the stock market. I was at first tempted to buy into their program so that I could make money too. However within the few days that followed, I realized that this was not the path of a heart. I couldn’t help but feel disconnected from the Wall Street path, which seems nothing more than a mere numbers game. You basically benefit or gamble on other people’s money, meanwhile not contributing anything of value to society. Doesn’t that seem pretty empty and unfulfilling?

When you chase money just for the sake of having more of it, your life turns out to be only about money or numbers. And for those people promoting the software, they get some money in exchange for your ignorance or cluelessness of how the stock market works.

In the stock market, there are two main ways to make money. You either earn money through dividends, or you earn it on capital gains (a.k.a. market inefficiencies). They presented the game of options, which they say will make you a sustainable income. But in order to truly make money from options, you have to know the insides and outs about different stocks and companies. And like I mentioned before, you are simply making money based off of other people’s ignorance. Do you really want to live that way?

They promoted both ways as follows: earn passive income through dividends, and earn income through options. The passive side of earning money seems to be the better deal as you invest money into a company that seems to be doing well. But the income part is tricky, in my humble opinion more risky than just trying to earn your own passive income through other means.

When it was Kevin O’Leary’s time to speak, he shared some of his own methods for saving and investing money. He did not promote Interactive Trader as the other two did, so I’m guessing they just cut him a deal to speak in front of an audience about his financial success. He offered valuable advice such as making the large part of his income through dividends (or royalties such as with his Shark Tank deals), and he suggested living off the interest, not by the principle.

Another point that Kevin O’Leary noticed was the trend of successful women entrepreneurs. He mentioned how they have better time management skills, set achievable goals, maintain low employee turnover, and assimilate feedback to enhance customer service. In turn, men struggle to set achievable goals due to testosterone, setting too high of goals that are unrealistic and hard to keep up with.

With Steve Sitkowski, I had a few valuable takeaways. He said to stop caring about what others think and to just do what you want to do. Everything is temporary, so learn how to give from a loving heart. Improve your life first, and then focus on improving others’ lives too. Also, align your actions with your objectives. I don’t agree with him on using options as a way to gain steady income, but hey, he said it worked for him. Good on him for that. (; Personally, I cannot stomach the thought of just playing with numbers all day long. If I were to invest in the stock market, it’d be for dividends, not options.

There were three main takeaways from Jeff Tomasulo. One is that many people have trouble speaking about money (even though it is the main concern for the majority of people). So the more comfortable you feel with talking about money, the more of a chance you have succeeding with money. He said to take care of the downside first, because the upside can handle itself. In other words, face those main problematic areas and find a way to improve it, and everything else will be taken care of. The last point is to form a team or mastermind rather than trying to do everything yourself.  Get your advice from the experts. Try to find a mentor that aligns with your beliefs and values, and replicate success from them (as a shortcut).

Overall, the event was not bad. There were a range of people attending the event, from college students to close-to-retirement folks. But still, I am skeptical about their program Interactive Trader. I know someone who is going to the event, so I’ll see their take on it before I completely write it all off. In the meantime though, I am focusing on my streams of passive income, doing my best to provide value to people before I gain anything from it. With the internet, it’s easier than ever to share with others and make a meaningful contribution. So, that is what I will focus on.

Sliding Scales of Progress

Have you ever progressed in a specific skill or talent, only to slide down in progress due to an unwanted break? I dabbled in and out of music several times. It’s not easy to get back into the swing of music production after you notice that you’re out of practice. Today, I posted a song cover of Impassive – Owol, but it wasn’t nearly the quality that I was hoping to get out of it.

The only good points I can say about this cover is 1) the vocals are pretty good compared to how they’ve been in the past, and 2) it took me just a few hours today to complete this cover. I’m sure if I put in more effort, it would have sounded even better. But rather than seeking perfection while I’m still using a dinky MacBook Air (which I only recommend to people who are used to single-tasking or using their computer for light tasks such as web browsing), I decided to just go ahead and post it as is.

If you compare this song cover to my earlier song covers, you will hear a noticeable difference. The instrumentals are somewhat off compared to the original. There are many instruments that I am still learning about in GarageBand.

I’m planning to upgrade to an iMac with Logic Pro X, so that will require me to learn more about the functionality while producing music. Does this throw me off? A bit. Do I wish I was able to continue music production when I was in a state of flow? Of course. But life got in the way, and I had to address certain concerns more than music production. The tradeoff is that now, I feel like I am in a good enough state to work on my creative pursuits and endeavors (this blog included, and YouTube again).

When you slide off progress due to unwanted circumstances, it’s easy to crumble and feel as if you can’t get back up again. But persistence does eventually pay off. This applies to any skill, whether it’s drawing, mathematics, astronomy, biology, cooking, plumbing, whatever the case may be. You just have to delve back into that skill, talent, or subject so that you can get good again. It’s easier said than done, but persistence and determination is key.

What skill have you held back on developing? Are you ready to dive into that skill again?

Life Goes On

“In three words, I can sum up everything I know about life. It goes on,” – Robert Frost

Whether we like it or not, life goes on. Time continues to pass no matter what we’re doing. Well, time is also an illusion, something that is merely measured by the movement of the Earth’s revolution on its axis and around the sun. But as each present moment passes by, we can see that life still continues on. Even while we are just taking a few seconds to breathe, someone else is maybe in a rush to go to the hospital, or to work, or to a lunch date. So whether we want to live the same routine life or not, time still passes either way. Why not make the most of what you have?

For me, life is a miracle. Think about all the planets and stars in the galaxies. There is so much mystery and wonder for all that exists. We only barely get to scratch the surface of those mysteries through our own limited senses. In church, we’re taught that God created the earth and the seas. But what about planets like Jupiter or Neptune? Don’t you ever wonder if and how God or some other greater being created those planets? How amazing is it that Earth exists? (;

With the time that you have, you should cherish it and learn how to make the most out of it. If you want to go for a scuba diving adventure, book it online. Catch the waves of the ocean. Sink in the sand. Go for a refreshing run, enjoying the sunlight and the beautiful view of the neighborhood or park. Go biking. Meet new faces. Try dining at a new restaurant. Go wherever your heart desires to collect good experiences rather than just sitting around doing nothing. If you’re strapped for cash, create a business around something you enjoy doing. Make money through your lifestyle. Whatever you do, make the most out of the life you were given. <3

How to Be Courageous

Courage is when you align with love and power to move past fear into a state of action. For many people, courage takes willpower and practice. We are not used to being courageous due to us falling to what society dictates or because our minds get stuck in a state of fear.

How do you move past a state of fear in order to take action?

There are two approaches to fear. One approach requires you to reframe your thoughts in the moment and to lean into that fear. That is, when you pulse or heart races and you feel yourself sweating, you move into whatever is fearful on your mind and take that first step of courage. This requires willpower and self-discipline. But as you continue to express courage, the more prone you are to overcoming those fears just by getting into the habit of trying something new.

Another useful approach is to get into a state of being confident. Confidence is different from courage in that you do not have to be scared. You can look into your fear and see where it is stemming from. For example, if you’re not used to socializing, you may feel withdrawn and may not want to interact with other people, for fear of being embarrassed or not knowing what to say. It may stem from moments of being shy when you were younger and always being told that you are shy. But if you can overlook this and see that this is what people always thought of you and that it doesn’t have to be that way, if you can reframe that mindset by saying that you are a confident being who loves to express feelings and ideas, you can go straight into a state of being confident.

Courage is useful for times in which you need to exert power, but are unsure of what is holding you back. Courage means speaking your mind despite what others may say, feel, or think. It means being authentic and being yourself, while also aligning with love and power.

Courage is a way to get out of a state of inactivity. Some people may need courage, for example, to go to the gym regularly. Maybe these people are afraid of what other people will think of them if they only walk on a treadmill or are not happy with their physical state of being and want to stay private. But once they reframe their mind to understanding that going to the gym can help them improve their health, they can courageously walk into a gym and prioritize their health.

Like I’ve mentioned before, courage is the stepping stone to facing your fears. However, the biggest mindset change is to get into a state of self-confidence through eliminating negative or limiting beliefs. This requires a practical step-by-step analysis of where your fears stem from.