How to Overcome a Negative Mindset

Our minds have the tendency of thinking negatively. This is because our brains are built on survival mode. In order for us to live, our minds make conclusions based upon our experiences. Some of these conclusions are positive, such as eating food as a means of surviving. Others are negative, such as the avoidance of touching fire to prevent burns.

Our negative mindsets can be based upon conclusions that we’ve generated over several experiences. It might even just take one negative experience to create a negative perspective. But with practice, you can catch which negative ideas are actually causing you more harm than good.

Let’s say you’ve had an encounter with the opposite gender in school. You had a crush, and you decided to confess your feelings to this one person. Instead of receiving what you perceive to be a good response (acceptance), you are quickly rejected and humiliated. This experience make “scar you” for life and prevent you from seeking our romantic interests.

However, what if you could change that thought into a positive experience? What if you could perceive rejection as good, as it allows you to disassociate yourself from people who are not interested and give you a chance to move on to someone else? Of course, being rejected by your crush may not be a good feeling, but it allows you to move on and try with someone else. It removes all the ambiguity of does he/she like me or not.

The people who are greatest at overcoming negative mindsets are the ones who allow the negativity to come into their life and go just as easily. They are people who try to look at the brighter side of things. Or, they develop positive coping skills that allow them to move on from negativity. Some people go a step further by examining those negative events and learning from those experiences.

What do you do when you experience negativity? Do you wallow in it, or do you learn from it, look for the positive, and more on from it?

Is It Possible to Be Positive All the Time?

As much as we would like to be positive all the time, there comes those times when we sink down into negativity. It could happen for a number of reasons. Regardless, it’s okay to be negative at times. And although it isn’t possible to be positive 100%, we can try our best to look at the brighter side of a situation by practicing positive habits.

There are activities that lower your state of consciousness and that can cause you to sink down into negativity. For example, the 6 o’clock news may be filled with stories of bankruptcy, war, and neighborhood crime. If you watch this type of news on a daily basis, you may find yourself shifting into a fearful state of being.

Then, there are activities that boost your mindset. For example, you may find is enjoyable to attend a dance class. It’s a good way of not only self expression, but a physical and mental boost. You find it easy to focus on the positive during this kind of activity.

The easiest way into getting into a more positive mindset is to engage in hobbies and activities that boost your wellbeing. Some other activities that help you to stay positive is to listen to uplifting music, travel, and going for a walk. These activities allow you to achieve a higher state of consciousness, leaning more into principles of truth and love.

Do you find your mindset to be more positive or more negative? Comment down below and share your thoughts.

Living from Moment to Moment

“Look at the sparrows; they do not know what they will do in the next moment. Let us literally live from moment to moment.” – Mahatma Gandhi

Often times, we find ourselves dwelling in the past or ruminating into the future. We find ourselves missing out on the small details of every moment. That is because we are not fully present or aware of what is happening for us right now.

When we dwell on the past, we find ourselves comparing our present moments to the past. Sometimes, we grieve over loss. Other times, we miss old friends and good times. We sometimes wonder if we can ever go back to how our lives used to be.

When we look toward the future, we may feel anxious. We may wonder why we are not manifesting good moments into our life right now. But the truth is that if you could just tune into the present moment, you can seek true happiness and fulfillment. When you are engaged fully into what is happening now, you can set yourself up for contentment.

Being fully present in the moment may take some practice. As children, we naturally knew how to live moment from moment. However as we grow older and get caught up with responsibilities dictated by society, we forget how to enjoy the present moment fully. It does not have to be this way though. You can relearn how to live in the present moment.

What it takes to live in the moment is to be fully aware of all that’s going on around you. You don’t have to focus on every single thing, but just notice where you are at the moment. Notice different things through your senses, such as the temperature of the room or how fast your breathing is. Learn how to embrace each moment at a time.

It’s easier said than done, not to dwell in the past or worry bout the future, but it’s also very doable when you persistently day after day focus on what is going on right at the moment. When you practice being conscious or aware of each moment, you lead a more fulfilling life, savoring every moment and truly engaging into what’s happening now.

Investing in Yourself

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” – Chinese Proverb

It’s never too late to plant a seed for success. However, many people delay the process indefinitely as they worry that nothing will come of the newfound action (e.g. creating a new business or embarking on a career transition). You have to set up your mind for success if you intend to plant those seeds now. Yes, now. Not a few days from now. Not a few weeks, a few months, or even a few years. It’s best to start where you are at right now to yield wealth later.

One way to plant those seeds is to invest in yourself. Learn a new skill. Pick up a fun hobby. Socialize. Explore. These are all great ways in which you can invest in yourself. And, it doesn’t matter what age you are. Investing in yourself first is a great way to expand upon your skills and talents that can later be used to build wealth.

Don’t worry if you missed out on past opportunities. There will always be more opportunities along the way. All you have to do is tune into them and go after what feels right for you. Some opportunities may require more from you than others. You should work on preparing yourself for the bigger opportunities, meanwhile cashing in on the small opportunities that come your way.

Some ways in which I invest in myself is through investing in technology. The technology I use allows me to express myself creatively, meanwhile also allowing me to tap into markets such as affiliate marketing or passive income through other means. If I didn’t invest in the technology that I use today, it would be difficult for me to for example post a YouTube video. But because I have sufficient technology, I am able to explore my creative talents such as singing or writing on this blog.

Wherever your interests lie, try to find a way to invest in yourself through the required skills and talents. The traditional approach is to attend college or university. But, you can explore different avenues of learning such as buying the textbook and learning at home with maybe hiring a tutor once in a while. Nowadays with the internet, you can learn anything through a simple Google search.

You can find a way to make those skills and talents applicable. For example, if you want to learn dance, you can record yourself dancing and post it up as a YouTube video for people to watch, maybe earning some passive income through YouTube partnership. Or, you could build up a portfolio of dance videos, catching the eye of different entertainment or dance companies.

Get creative and invest in yourself by creating an online presence. If you become well-known on the internet, people may ask to hire you for different gigs. If you’re a personal development guru, you might be invited to speak at various events for money. Or if you’re the go-to person for reaction videos, you may be sponsored to attend related events. Making yourself known online is a great way to increase your opportunities. Just plant one seed at a time, and take your time learning how to brand yourself and your skills or talents.

These days, I would say that the best way for people to invest in themselves is to start somewhere on the internet. Heck, there are people who make thousands off of simple hobbies such as computer gaming through streaming on websites like Twitch. If a 15-year-old can make money off creating a simple smartphone app, so can you. There’s less of an excuse to make money online. You’re either in, or you keep missing out on the experiences. But once you’re in, you can learn many things, allowing you to create new streams of income through something you enjoy.

Life is Either a Daring Adventure or Nothing

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” – Helen Keller

Life is full of ups and downs. When we experience the negative, we find it difficult to focus on the good. That is natural. However, we have to realize that the downs are part of the journey. Rather than dwelling on the negative, focus on going with the flow while being mindful of both the negative and positive. Be mindful of the negative by focusing on solutions, or by not focusing too much on the bad. Try your best to be balanced. At the same time, don’t settle for less and enjoy life as much as you possibly can.

It can seem like a conundrum between balancing life and enjoying a grand adventure of life. But, it’s possible to live both ways. It’s possible to know of the risks certain actions may yield. So with every major decision, take some caution and gradually unfold the experience rather than rushing through it. Be mindful of any possible negative setbacks while also being open to the unfamiliar.

Most people choose to settle for their life, graduating with thousands of dollars in school loans and sticking to a 9-5 job. It may yield a comfortable lifestyle. However, it can get boring and repetitive fast if you stick to this path of mediocrity.

There are the few who decide to go through a different path. Some have made entire livings through traveling and embarking on new adventures. Few people try the digital nomad lifestyle. Once you can get past the finances and find an active solution for it through your lifestyle (e.g. workshops, online courses, sponsorships, etc.), you can enjoy an abundant lifestyle.

Let’s say you’re happy with your 9-5. Great! Not everyone is happy with their 9-5, but if you are, you are in luck. Now all you have to do is add to the fun, engaging in interesting hobbies or enjoying your free time off. You don’t have to feel tired or drained. Enjoy your life.

Architect of Your Own Character

“Let us not say, every man is the architect of his own fortune, but let us say, every man is the architect of his own character.” – George Dana Boardman

The cool thing about your life is that you get to choose who you want to be. Who you choose to be as a person speaks volumes. Our character allows us to experience things uniquely. It is so important to make sure that your character reflects who you truly want to be in this world.

I was just watching a video by Anna Akana talking about bumping into a random stranger who reacted badly. Rather than reciprocating with anger, Anna responded gently and asked, “Are you okay?” Then the stranger replied that she was sorry and that she was having a hard time because her father had passed away. Turns out Anna Akana faced a similar situation with her sister. So, the two enjoyed a deeper connection with each other just from the fact that Anna chose to respond with kindness rather than anger.

How we choose to respond or react in various scenarios is an integral part of our character. If you wish to live a more fulfilling lifestyle, you may choose to identify with values such as truth or love. That way, you can make the best of any type of scenario. We don’t know how other people really are until we choose to identify with kindness or compassion even through seemingly difficult times.

I like the idea of being your own architect of your own character. Rather than focusing on the superficial and giving into pure materialism, we can look within ourselves and learn how to be four-dimensional beings. That is, learn how to resonate at a higher frequency or higher state of consciousness. Then, enjoy more pleasant experiences, even changing negative events to good ones. The true test of character is to overcome the negative that comes along the way. Don’t you agree?

By the way, if you have the type of personality that reacts badly to any situation, it is totally possible to change your ways and to become a more positive or pleasant person. You can recreate new personality types and identify with different values. It takes some conscious effort to change in the beginning, but it is possible. For example, you can go from being a shy person to being the life of the party at social gatherings just by practicing talking in front of a mirror or by attending Toastmasters and getting used to speaking in front of an audience. Remember, personalities are moldable. And if you so choose to pick good habits over bad ones, all it takes is some upfront work, perhaps shedding old beliefs and accepting more empowering beliefs.

Is there a part of your character that you would like to change? If so, how would you go about changing it? Feel free to share in the comments.

Concentration

“The ability to concentrate and to use your time well is everything if you want to succeed in business– or almost anywhere else for that matter.” – Lee Iacocca

Concentration is key in making progress. It’s not always easy to concentrate due to our circumstances. Therefore, we must make an effort to create an environment that allows us to concentrate deeply in whatever it is that we are doing and wanting to progress in.

For a blogger such as myself, it may require a clean workspace, free from distractions. It might in some cases also be beneficial to write in an area that is on airplane mode, meaning that your phone is shut off or on silent, or that your laptop is off from wifi. That way, you won’t be distracted by text messages or emails. You may benefit from simply writing on a word document and transferring it to your website later.

You want to have an environment that fuels your or inspires you to concentrate on a daily basis. This goes for any talent or skill, whether it’s music or math, science or astrology. Whatever captures your interest, make sure that your environment is cohesive to that. An organized space always helps, keeping your mind healthy too.

If you want to succeed in achieving any goal, concentration is important. You have to set your eyes upon that goal and make sure you are progressing every day. Even if you have some setbacks, you want to keep going at it, creating the habit for success. The more persistent and concentrated you are, the better.

The Illusion of Perfection

Sometimes when we try to achieve a certain goal, we get caught up in making it perfect. We expect there to be a linear path to success. But in reality, there is no true linear path to longterm goals. We can expect there to be curves or obstacles along the way. And, it is up to us to navigate through those unexpected roadblocks.

In order to achieve something perfect, we’d be expending a lot of time and energy into achieving that state of perfection. But sometimes, it’s worth it just to execute your actions and to keep treading on. For example, I don’t always have a perfect idea for what I want to blog about. I don’t even know how the blog post will end up until it’s actually finished. However, I can try my best to come up with a topic and write about it, seeing where it leads me. Either way, since my intention is to help others, it will show through my consistent effort of writing and posting regularly.

In reality, nothing is 100% perfect. There will always be an edge that we could correct. This happens to me when I’m songwriting or producing a cover on a song. The vocals might not be 100% how I want it to sound. Or, the instrumental track may be imperfect. But if I try my best and set aside a certain amount of time to get it done, it usually ends up sounding pretty decent. Well, at least my subscribers enjoy it. Plus not only that, but I also find myself improving for the next time I produce or create a song.

We have to come to terms with life not being perfect. We have to take not only the “good”, but the unwanted (or “bad”). We have to live in balance and understand that perfection is merely an illusion. There is no such thing as a life that is 100% perfect. Try to find someone who has a perfect life. You’ll hear of no such thing.

What we can do is learn to accept that life is not 100% perfect. We can strive to live out best lives every day, minus the negative feelings. Or we can accept those negative feelings too and learn how to do our best anyway, despite the setbacks. Learn the lessons behind every negative event that shows up. This is how life is, and it’s up to your how you create your reality. Just realize that it’s okay to make mistakes along the way, because either way you are learning and growing. That’s as close to perfect as we can get.

Persistence

We hear it time after time that persistence pays off. But what exactly does persistence mean and look like? Persistence is when you continually work on something time after time, despite any setbacks that may occur.

One example of how I have been persistent lately is by hitting the gym every day on weekdays. That has been paying off well for me as I feel my body’s stamina increasing. My energy has also slowly but surely been stabilizing throughout the day.

Another way in which I have been persistent is to blog almost daily. There are some days that I miss when my schedule is busy, but for the most part I have been consistent in blogging daily. By being persistent, I’ve noticed that the quality of my writing has been improving too.

Some people may feel as if they haven’t been persistent daily. But if you look at the habits you already have, you may be persistent. For example, you may brush your teeth daily, or showering every other day. You may wake up at the same time every day. That counts as being persistent.

My recommendation is that if you want to live a life that is more structured, start off with one small habit that you can instill every day. Maybe if hitting the gym seems out of your reach, start with 3 full pushups. Then add another pushup the next day, making it four. Then go with five, six, seven, and so on until before you know it, you’ll be flying with those pushups every day with a strong physique to show for.

Other good habits to instill that might be easy to start off with is drinking more water. You can make it a goal to get 2 cups of water in before lunch. Or if you wake up late, make it a goal to down a bottle of water the first thing when you wake up.

If it is a matter of productivity, you can gradually build up persistence to working or studying more. For example, you may make it a simple goal to study and review notes for 5 minutes a day first thing in the morning or when you get back home in the evening. Five minutes does not sound like a lot of time, sure. But is it better than continuously not studying or working? Yes! Start with just five minutes, and then build yourself up to 7 minutes after a week of studying or working 5 minutes a day. Then, you might want to build up to 10 minutes a day. Keep going until you hit the ideal amount of time for studying or working.

The key the persistence is to start simple and relatively easy. Then, you will be able to be persistent, gradually building up long-lasting habits. Any time you slide down, restart with something simple again until you get the hang of sticking to that habit. Then you too can become a persistent person. (;

Balancing Emotion with What’s Rational

Our emotions don’t last forever. What we feel is just in the moment. Then as we experience new changes, our emotions and feelings may shift over to something different. What we have to realize with out emotions is that sometimes, we have to balance those emotions with a rational state of mind.

Your emotional mind is an indicator of how things are going both on the inside and outwards. Sometimes, our minds may convince us to engage in certain activities based on how you feel in the moment. But, we should try our best to balance our state of being with the rational, to make more grounded decisions.

What we can do is practice living with a more empowered state of being. That is, deflect negativity and replace them with a more positive affirmation. Forgive yourself for your mistakes, and learn how to do better the next time around.

It can be easy to just give into our emotions, because that is how we feel. And, we often feel that the best way to express our emotional mind is to experience it fully. However, that rarely plays out well. When we are overly optimistic, we may engage in risky behaviors or overwhelm ourselves by the time our optimistic high is over. And similarly, when we drown in negativity, we self-destruct and cause ourselves to experience more stressful situations. Well, that is unless you learn how to get yourself to a calmer state of being.

When you’re in a calm state of being, that is the best place to be in order to make decisions. You are level-headed and think more clearly or rationally. We can create goals for ourselves that are positive and reachable. This is better than taking off more than you can chew and destructing in chaos. Focus on where you are right now and learn how to take a step up. As with anything, it takes time to learn the skill of balancing emotion with logic. But the more you practice, the better you become at it, and the more you can take on. And when you learn how to balance emotion with logic, you begin to make wiser decisions.