Eliminating the Non-Essentials in Life

The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials.” – Lin Yutang

There are many ways in which we can discover waste in our lives. The first most obvious way of seeking waste is through our material possessions. Often times, people hold onto tons of junk or clutter that end up consuming so much space. When you hold onto clutter, your mind can also be filled with clutter, having to take extra inventory of what is in front of you. So the best thing to do is to find a way to eliminate material possessions that we no longer use or desire to use.

Another example of a non-essential is a time-wasting activity. For example, smoking can be considered a time-waster, and a health hazard as well. Why waste your time smoking a cigarette when you could be doing something more fun or more productive? It’s a no-brainer to eliminate such habits and to replace them with more worthy time-consumers.

Just imagine how much extra mental clarity you would have if you lived in a clutter-free home. You would feel more relaxed and more at ease. Your eyes would have an easier time taking in the environment that you’ve created for yourself. A daily 5-minute clean up habit might be a good way to kickstart creating your clutter-free space.

One way to identify non-essentials is to track your time throughout the day. Keep note of everything you do in a single day (or even a single week if you’re that dedicated). Start off by writing the time, then how many minutes you spent on a certain activity and write that activity down. For example, you may spend 15 minutes in the bathroom, 12 minutes of which were actually you on your smartphone watching a YouTube video. Or you might spend 1 hour on Facebook at another time. It’s a good way of tracking non-essential tasks and trying to find more ways to make that time more meaningful throughout the day.

Reclaim your precious time and space! Let’s not live another life of waste.

The Difference Between Successful People and Mediocre People

The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will.” – Vince Lombardi

 

I find this quote to be true. There are different ways in which success shows up in a person’s life. It could be owning a nice home, raising two beautiful loving children, or progressing in one’s career. But either way, a lack of will can get in the way and crush a person’s success by derailing their efforts.

How does one build up willpower to crush and conquer life? For one, you may have to change your environment. Most people’s environments do not set them up for success and in fact can hinder their progress. For example, if you live with people who settle for comfort and who dissuade you from focusing on what success means to you, then you will have negative thoughts come into your mind that will inevitably hinder your growth. The same happens when you live in a chaotic environment (clutter or living in poverty-stricken areas). So the first step in building up more willpower is to first examine your environment and see if there is anything you can do to change it and foster a growth-oriented mindset.

You may also benefit from associating with people who achieved the level of success that you so wish to attain. You could join local Meetups. Or, you can start one of your own. Surrounding yourself with the people who live in the successful type of mindset increases your ability to foster a success-driven mindset as well. They say you are the average of the people you spend your time with in proportion to how long you spend your time with each person.

These days, I’ve been feeling a lack of will myself. Some ways in which I have been trying to increase my will is to, for example, take Zumba group classes. When I see how hard the instructor is working and how other people are doing in the class, it makes me want to increase my efforts and try my best as well. It’s a good way for me to improve my physical wellness when alone, I would probably just watch YouTube dance videos without getting up and trying it for myself.

I find that a lack of knowledge is not necessarily a barrier for success. The most successful people in history in terms of monetary wealth are not the smartest or brightest people, but those who have been able to utilize other people’s intelligence or knowledge to create products or services of great value to society. They’ve learned that they don’t have to know it all to make it. The entrepreneurial mindset is that even if you don’t know how to do it, someone will, and so you can outsource those abilities to help you succeed in whatever it is you wish to do.

I don’t consider myself a good singer because my technique is off and I haven’t had proper vocal training. So what do I do when singing songs? I use technology (such as  the effects on GarageBand) to improve it. It takes my mediocre voice to the next level. So rather than giving up and saying that I’m not talented enough, I find a way to make it work and make my songs or covers sound nice.

Lack of strength does not matter either when it comes to success. There have been people who are blind or deaf (e.g. Helen Keller) or crippled who have turned their lives into success stories. “I’m not strong enough” just becomes a feeble excuse. And if you believe that you can’t, you won’t. Just as much as if you believe you can, you will. It is all a matter of perception. After all, you are what you feed your mind.

So there you have it, a wise quote on the difference between a successful person and others. It is all in how you develop your mindset. If you find that you have many negative thoughts hindering your success, it may be time for you to re-examine your thoughts and remove those limiting beliefs that are standing in your way.

Job Title: Personal Cheerleader

Today while I was attending Steve Pavlina’s Deep Abundance Integration call, I had the idea of becoming a personal cheerleader for others. Other words for it would be accountability partner, accountability buddy, accountability coach, and life coach. The reason I decided to go with “cheerleader” is because I would be utilizing positive affirmations and positive energy to motivate the person.

I wonder how much people would pay to have a personal cheerleader in their life. How much would you pay? Feel free to leave a comment.

Included in the service would be:

– Nearly 24/7 support (setting up calls in advance would be preferred so that phone calls don’t overlap), meaning that you’re only a phone call away to receive positive support and guidance.
– Daily text messages with positive affirmations and such, as well as checking in to track progress.

I’m still thinking about how to set up such a service. I’m interested in providing this type of service since this is something I naturally do with my friends. I like to motivate and inspire people to live to their fullest potential. And, I’ve succeeded in helping others achieve their goals.

What do you think of this kind of service? Is it something that you would be interested in paying for?

How to Overcome a Negative Mindset

Our minds have the tendency of thinking negatively. This is because our brains are built on survival mode. In order for us to live, our minds make conclusions based upon our experiences. Some of these conclusions are positive, such as eating food as a means of surviving. Others are negative, such as the avoidance of touching fire to prevent burns.

Our negative mindsets can be based upon conclusions that we’ve generated over several experiences. It might even just take one negative experience to create a negative perspective. But with practice, you can catch which negative ideas are actually causing you more harm than good.

Let’s say you’ve had an encounter with the opposite gender in school. You had a crush, and you decided to confess your feelings to this one person. Instead of receiving what you perceive to be a good response (acceptance), you are quickly rejected and humiliated. This experience make “scar you” for life and prevent you from seeking our romantic interests.

However, what if you could change that thought into a positive experience? What if you could perceive rejection as good, as it allows you to disassociate yourself from people who are not interested and give you a chance to move on to someone else? Of course, being rejected by your crush may not be a good feeling, but it allows you to move on and try with someone else. It removes all the ambiguity of does he/she like me or not.

The people who are greatest at overcoming negative mindsets are the ones who allow the negativity to come into their life and go just as easily. They are people who try to look at the brighter side of things. Or, they develop positive coping skills that allow them to move on from negativity. Some people go a step further by examining those negative events and learning from those experiences.

What do you do when you experience negativity? Do you wallow in it, or do you learn from it, look for the positive, and move on from it?

Is It Possible to Be Positive All the Time?

As much as we would like to be positive all the time, there comes those times when we sink down into negativity. It could happen for a number of reasons. Regardless, it’s okay to be negative at times. And although it isn’t possible to be positive 100%, we can try our best to look at the brighter side of a situation by practicing positive habits.

There are activities that lower your state of consciousness and that can cause you to sink down into negativity. For example, the 6 o’clock news may be filled with stories of bankruptcy, war, and neighborhood crime. If you watch this type of news on a daily basis, you may find yourself shifting into a fearful state of being.

Then, there are activities that boost your mindset. For example, you may find is enjoyable to attend a dance class. It’s a good way of not only self expression, but a physical and mental boost. You find it easy to focus on the positive during this kind of activity.

The easiest way into getting into a more positive mindset is to engage in hobbies and activities that boost your wellbeing. Some other activities that help you to stay positive is to listen to uplifting music, travel, and going for a walk. These activities allow you to achieve a higher state of consciousness, leaning more into principles of truth and love.

Do you find your mindset to be more positive or more negative? Comment down below and share your thoughts.

Living from Moment to Moment

“Look at the sparrows; they do not know what they will do in the next moment. Let us literally live from moment to moment.” – Mahatma Gandhi

Often times, we find ourselves dwelling in the past or ruminating into the future. We find ourselves missing out on the small details of every moment. That is because we are not fully present or aware of what is happening for us right now.

When we dwell on the past, we find ourselves comparing our present moments to the past. Sometimes, we grieve over loss. Other times, we miss old friends and good times. We sometimes wonder if we can ever go back to how our lives used to be.

When we look toward the future, we may feel anxious. We may wonder why we are not manifesting good moments into our life right now. But the truth is that if you could just tune into the present moment, you can seek true happiness and fulfillment. When you are engaged fully into what is happening now, you can set yourself up for contentment.

Being fully present in the moment may take some practice. As children, we naturally knew how to live moment from moment. However as we grow older and get caught up with responsibilities dictated by society, we forget how to enjoy the present moment fully. It does not have to be this way though. You can relearn how to live in the present moment.

What it takes to live in the moment is to be fully aware of all that’s going on around you. You don’t have to focus on every single thing, but just notice where you are at the moment. Notice different things through your senses, such as the temperature of the room or how fast your breathing is. Learn how to embrace each moment at a time.

It’s easier said than done, not to dwell in the past or worry bout the future, but it’s also very doable when you persistently day after day focus on what is going on right at the moment. When you practice being conscious or aware of each moment, you lead a more fulfilling life, savoring every moment and truly engaging into what’s happening now.

Investing in Yourself

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” – Chinese Proverb

It’s never too late to plant a seed for success. However, many people delay the process indefinitely as they worry that nothing will come of the newfound action (e.g. creating a new business or embarking on a career transition). You have to set up your mind for success if you intend to plant those seeds now. Yes, now. Not a few days from now. Not a few weeks, a few months, or even a few years. It’s best to start where you are at right now to yield wealth later.

One way to plant those seeds is to invest in yourself. Learn a new skill. Pick up a fun hobby. Socialize. Explore. These are all great ways in which you can invest in yourself. And, it doesn’t matter what age you are. Investing in yourself first is a great way to expand upon your skills and talents that can later be used to build wealth.

Don’t worry if you missed out on past opportunities. There will always be more opportunities along the way. All you have to do is tune into them and go after what feels right for you. Some opportunities may require more from you than others. You should work on preparing yourself for the bigger opportunities, meanwhile cashing in on the small opportunities that come your way.

Some ways in which I invest in myself is through investing in technology. The technology I use allows me to express myself creatively, meanwhile also allowing me to tap into markets such as affiliate marketing or passive income through other means. If I didn’t invest in the technology that I use today, it would be difficult for me to for example post a YouTube video. But because I have sufficient technology, I am able to explore my creative talents such as singing or writing on this blog.

Wherever your interests lie, try to find a way to invest in yourself through the required skills and talents. The traditional approach is to attend college or university. But, you can explore different avenues of learning such as buying the textbook and learning at home with maybe hiring a tutor once in a while. Nowadays with the internet, you can learn anything through a simple Google search.

You can find a way to make those skills and talents applicable. For example, if you want to learn dance, you can record yourself dancing and post it up as a YouTube video for people to watch, maybe earning some passive income through YouTube partnership. Or, you could build up a portfolio of dance videos, catching the eye of different entertainment or dance companies.

Get creative and invest in yourself by creating an online presence. If you become well-known on the internet, people may ask to hire you for different gigs. If you’re a personal development guru, you might be invited to speak at various events for money. Or if you’re the go-to person for reaction videos, you may be sponsored to attend related events. Making yourself known online is a great way to increase your opportunities. Just plant one seed at a time, and take your time learning how to brand yourself and your skills or talents.

These days, I would say that the best way for people to invest in themselves is to start somewhere on the internet. Heck, there are people who make thousands off of simple hobbies such as computer gaming through streaming on websites like Twitch. If a 15-year-old can make money off creating a simple smartphone app, so can you. There’s less of an excuse to make money online. You’re either in, or you keep missing out on the experiences. But once you’re in, you can learn many things, allowing you to create new streams of income through something you enjoy.

Life is Either a Daring Adventure or Nothing

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” – Helen Keller

Life is full of ups and downs. When we experience the negative, we find it difficult to focus on the good. That is natural. However, we have to realize that the downs are part of the journey. Rather than dwelling on the negative, focus on going with the flow while being mindful of both the negative and positive. Be mindful of the negative by focusing on solutions, or by not focusing too much on the bad. Try your best to be balanced. At the same time, don’t settle for less and enjoy life as much as you possibly can.

It can seem like a conundrum between balancing life and enjoying a grand adventure of life. But, it’s possible to live both ways. It’s possible to know of the risks certain actions may yield. So with every major decision, take some caution and gradually unfold the experience rather than rushing through it. Be mindful of any possible negative setbacks while also being open to the unfamiliar.

Most people choose to settle for their life, graduating with thousands of dollars in school loans and sticking to a 9-5 job. It may yield a comfortable lifestyle. However, it can get boring and repetitive fast if you stick to this path of mediocrity.

There are the few who decide to go through a different path. Some have made entire livings through traveling and embarking on new adventures. Few people try the digital nomad lifestyle. Once you can get past the finances and find an active solution for it through your lifestyle (e.g. workshops, online courses, sponsorships, etc.), you can enjoy an abundant lifestyle.

Let’s say you’re happy with your 9-5. Great! Not everyone is happy with their 9-5, but if you are, you are in luck. Now all you have to do is add to the fun, engaging in interesting hobbies or enjoying your free time off. You don’t have to feel tired or drained. Enjoy your life.

Architect of Your Own Character

“Let us not say, every man is the architect of his own fortune, but let us say, every man is the architect of his own character.” – George Dana Boardman

The cool thing about your life is that you get to choose who you want to be. Who you choose to be as a person speaks volumes. Our character allows us to experience things uniquely. It is so important to make sure that your character reflects who you truly want to be in this world.

I was just watching a video by Anna Akana talking about bumping into a random stranger who reacted badly. Rather than reciprocating with anger, Anna responded gently and asked, “Are you okay?” Then the stranger replied that she was sorry and that she was having a hard time because her father had passed away. Turns out Anna Akana faced a similar situation with her sister. So, the two enjoyed a deeper connection with each other just from the fact that Anna chose to respond with kindness rather than anger.

How we choose to respond or react in various scenarios is an integral part of our character. If you wish to live a more fulfilling lifestyle, you may choose to identify with values such as truth or love. That way, you can make the best of any type of scenario. We don’t know how other people really are until we choose to identify with kindness or compassion even through seemingly difficult times.

I like the idea of being your own architect of your own character. Rather than focusing on the superficial and giving into pure materialism, we can look within ourselves and learn how to be four-dimensional beings. That is, learn how to resonate at a higher frequency or higher state of consciousness. Then, enjoy more pleasant experiences, even changing negative events to good ones. The true test of character is to overcome the negative that comes along the way. Don’t you agree?

By the way, if you have the type of personality that reacts badly to any situation, it is totally possible to change your ways and to become a more positive or pleasant person. You can recreate new personality types and identify with different values. It takes some conscious effort to change in the beginning, but it is possible. For example, you can go from being a shy person to being the life of the party at social gatherings just by practicing talking in front of a mirror or by attending Toastmasters and getting used to speaking in front of an audience. Remember, personalities are moldable. And if you so choose to pick good habits over bad ones, all it takes is some upfront work, perhaps shedding old beliefs and accepting more empowering beliefs.

Is there a part of your character that you would like to change? If so, how would you go about changing it? Feel free to share in the comments.

Concentration

“The ability to concentrate and to use your time well is everything if you want to succeed in business– or almost anywhere else for that matter.” – Lee Iacocca

Concentration is key in making progress. It’s not always easy to concentrate due to our circumstances. Therefore, we must make an effort to create an environment that allows us to concentrate deeply in whatever it is that we are doing and wanting to progress in.

For a blogger such as myself, it may require a clean workspace, free from distractions. It might in some cases also be beneficial to write in an area that is on airplane mode, meaning that your phone is shut off or on silent, or that your laptop is off from wifi. That way, you won’t be distracted by text messages or emails. You may benefit from simply writing on a word document and transferring it to your website later.

You want to have an environment that fuels your or inspires you to concentrate on a daily basis. This goes for any talent or skill, whether it’s music or math, science or astrology. Whatever captures your interest, make sure that your environment is cohesive to that. An organized space always helps, keeping your mind healthy too.

If you want to succeed in achieving any goal, concentration is important. You have to set your eyes upon that goal and make sure you are progressing every day. Even if you have some setbacks, you want to keep going at it, creating the habit for success. The more persistent and concentrated you are, the better.